Baby

Hi there. I beleive that the custody and care of the child should be discussed between your daughter and the natural father. What are her feelings? Is she ready to take the responsibility of mothering? What about the father? Do they have any intention of marrying and raising the child together? Or if not marrying, do they both wish to raise the child together with split care? The care and future of this child should be agreed upon. A good family/custody lawyer could advise as to the legalities and any paperwork to be filed, etc.

If neither is ready to take on the responsibility of caring for the child and no extended family members (including yourself) are open to this either, then adoption could be a viable solution for the child as well as one of millions of couples who yearn for a child yet cannot have one naturally.

I can understand with being a mother of grown children, that you may not want to take on the responsibility to raise this baby. However, I am a bit alarmed at your comment with regard to the child being inter-racial, especially if this is your basis for not wanting to care for it. Your grandchild regardless of race should be loved just the same as any other living human. His/her future care should not be tossed around like a little unexpected hot potato that didn't bake to your liking. Forgive me if this is not the case with you and my interpretation of your posting is incorrect. But if it is correct, shame on you!