Consistency is key. Also, make it very real for him in regards to removing prevliges and make them stick. I've got a son who became very forgettful for a time - things like turning in homework, etc. I started forgetting to get what he wanted for meals, forgetting that he was allowed to watch TV, etc. Worked well. As for disrespect, my older son knows that if he does that, he'll get embarassed in public and in front of his friends, which he deathly fears. As long as you are consistant, it will work. Good luck.

