Obviously you're not a born-again Christian because you certainly don't understand the rules of the game. Sex before marriage - NO. Children out of wedlock - NO. Eternal hell and damnation - YES.
Come on KammyKate . . . a real Christian would tell you you're being tempted by the devil. I tell you you're human in a world where religion has no meaning, credibility or purpose any more except to incite wars between people who believe differently.
Sex can be a beautiful experience, but don't think about this in terms of religion. I have told many young women the same thing from the Doctor Leon site - http://www.drleons.com - "Your first time is a precious and intimate gift you can only give to a man once in your lifetime."
I would hope you are mature enough to realize and understand that. When things are right and you finally meet the right man for a more permanent long-term relationship, it would be sad if you spend the rest of your time with that special man feeling guilty and ashamed because you gave the most precious gift you have to someone else before him.
Yes, everybody seems to be doing it and I assure you a large number of those people doing it will at some time in the future wish they had not done it when they did.
You are definitely undergoing a battle of the wills with your raging hormomes, but you seem to be considering sex as an enticement to trap a man into a long term relationship. Very bad idea. Not because you will go to hell . . . both you, I and quite honestly everyone else knows that is a croc . . . but because most women as "hot to trot" as you appear to be generally find themselves "used" by a succession of men who want nothing more than a "score." I think you want more than that.
Take cold showers, buy a "toy" or two and hold on to your most precious gift (no pun intended) until you meet a man who can earn your trust and intimacy with his own gift of adoration and devotion for life. A dream . . . maybe, but if you can believe in a fantasy like god, maybe you should believe your dream of the "right" guy can come true too.
This answer was edited by ldsch 179 days ago.
Reason: Correct typo.
