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Submitted 225 days ago...

Quoter483

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Why after 9 years have I started thinking about my ex?

I am a 28 year old happily married woman. My husband and I have been married now for 6 years and have 4 wonderful children. I love my husband so much but lately my ex has been on my mind. We dated when i was 18 and he was my first love. We had a bad break up and never really spoke to each other after. About 1 1/2 years ago my ex emailed me through myspace saying hi. So I said hi back and told him whats been going on in my life since I left my home state. That was the only time we emailed until about 8 months ago I got curious to see how he was and asked him to add me to his friends list.
We once again emailed each other a couple of times but I felt guilty and told him it wasn't fair to my husband and haven't talked to my ex since.
Now I can't get him out of my mind he's all I think about besides my family. I am starting to realize that part of me still loves him and I am affraid always will. I can't move on from this. Part of me wants to email my ex telling him to get maybe some kind of closure but would that make things worse or better? And I don't want to go behind my husbands back but this isn't something I could tell him and he would understand.
Please help!

 
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Submitted 177 days ago...

tomturkey

tomturkey

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You have already been going behind your husbands back from the frist time you started having any contact with your ex. He was your frist love relax it is ok we all have felt that way. You have a marriage and four children you need to put your ex in the past and keep him there. You can never go back into time. You have a family I don't know what you think you have to gain by keeping in contact with him. your just asking for trouble and how would you feel if the table's were turned. Do you think your ex would want to raise a family after your're been married to him and have children with another man. You have done nothing seriously wrong at this point don't let it go any futher it might cost you your family.

 

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