If I have sex before marriage will I be forever condemned by God?Will I go to hell?Will I be a bad person?

I am a born again Christian in my mid 20s.I'm still a virgin and I'm still not married surprisingly.I am starting to worry if I will ever get married.i'm 26 and still not taken.I want to experience sex, but I have no husband still. I don't want to die a virgin. I am even questioning getting pregnant out of wedlock.I really want children and I don't want to be an old unmarried lady with no children.I want to experience pregnancy.I want children really badly, but I want to have them out my body and i also want to adopt. SInce taking this human sexuality class this quarter, I have been really asking if I will be a bad person if I lose my virginity before marriage? I don't want to die a virgin and I'm still not married at the age of 26. I am human and I get desires.I know about birth control and contraceptives.I have learned a lot about female condoms in the human sexuality course.My parents want me to start keeping male and female condoms on me in case I get tempted. Will I go to hell just because I have sex before marriage? Will I be a bad person? What if I don't get married, I'm supposed to just sit here and be a virgin and die a virgin like Queen Elizabeth did? I want to experience sex. I get desires,esp. around my monthly cycle.My hormones be talking.I also want children.I don't want to die a single childless woman.What if no man comes along, can I get artificially inseminated? I want to experience pregnanty.Everyone seems to be having

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awillia

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I really admire you for your longterm decision to wait. I wish I had the courage to stand against the pressure of the man I was with so many years ago. Virginity is not a bad thing, it's a gift, something that is supposed to be saved for the man who would be your husband. My heart rejoices for your choice to follow Christ and your choice to be abstinent. God does tell us that he wants us to maintain self control over our bodies and that our bodies are not meant for sexual immorality.(1Cor.6:13, 10:8 and 1Thes. 4:3) No, God will not hate you nor condemn you to hell for fornicating or having a child out of wedlock. But keep in mind, that does not mean fornication is okay with him. And every time we sin, especially sexually, we greive the Holy Spirit who is in those of us who chose Christ as Savior.(Eph. 4:30) I don't say all this to make you feel guilty for your feelings, we all have them. However, the world would have you believe that whatever everybody else is doing is okay because they feel good doing it, and nothing that feels good can be bad right? Unfortunately, there are a host of problems associated with disobeying God's commands, even those to do with sex. Can you say STD. Sex is a wonderful thing...I guess, but it is meant to be enjoyed within the marriage union only. Don't worry too much about getting married or having children before you're old, such worries tend to get us in trouble...believe me, I know. Oh, and don't pay any mind to the guy who says you're not a born-again Christian just because you don't know about this subject. We are all babies in the beginning, only able to drink milk. Just remember, if and when you do sin in any way( we are not perfect just because we are saved), confess it to God and repent, because God says that if you confess your sins he is just and faithful to forgive.(1Jn. 1:9) Also read Romans 8:1.

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