It was curiosity, plain and simple. It's normal. We all wonder "what could've been" and "what if..." when we find our relationships somewhat the same ol' same ol'. We tend to let our minds wander and sometimes they wander back into the past where they really shouldn't go. I'd say to take up a hobby or something to keep your mind on the family in front of you. Put a little more time into your marriage instead of trying to find free time to think of an ex. Your husband would probably appreciate it and that might help you feel needed and wanted by the man you're committed to.
Look into your marriage... is there something you can change about yourself? Do you dress nice or just throw on any old thing that's (sometimes) clean? Do you treat him like the father of your children or just the guy that lives in the same house? Do you show him you love him with little things like putting toothpaste on his toothbrush or leaving him little notes, stuff like that? Try it and get more in tune to him and your kids and you'll find yourself forgetting about that ex. There's a reason he's your ex, right? Hope this helps.
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Why after 9 years have I started thinking about my ex?
I am a 28 year old happily married woman. My husband and I have been married now for 6 years and have 4 wonderful children. I love my husband so much but lately my ex has been on my mind. We dated when i was 18 and he was my first love. We had a bad break up and never really spoke to each other after. About 1 1/2 years ago my ex emailed me through myspace saying hi. So I said hi back and told him whats been going on in my life since I left my home state. That was the only time we emailed until about 8 months ago I got curious to see how he was and asked him to add me to his friends list.
We once again emailed each other a couple of times but I felt guilty and told him it wasn't fair to my husband and haven't talked to my ex since.
Now I can't get him out of my mind he's all I think about besides my family. I am starting to realize that part of me still loves him and I am affraid always will. I can't move on from this. Part of me wants to email my ex telling him to get maybe some kind of closure but would that make things worse or better? And I don't want to go behind my husbands back but this isn't something I could tell him and he would understand.
Please help!
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