Yes you are right the system sucks. When your ex filed for custody did you get served and did you go to court? If you did not appear in court then that would explain why he would of got custody,sometimes when you have custody you don't think you have to appear. If this is not the case then something is really wrong. You need a lawyer in this case because the court has went as far as ordering mederator for you. However that is a good thing in away because that means that the door is still open for you to get the custody back. I would fight this and I know it is hard for you a well as being upset. Just refile for custody he did it so can you. Hopefully you will get a different judge that listens. Good luck


