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stargirl1320

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Best Man? Best Friend?

My guy cannot make up his mind on who to choose for his Best Man. He has like 2 Best Friends, but they are both there for him in different ways. The first guy, was there for him when he got jumped, and always comes over, and hangs out with him. But he is kind of a mooch, and always comes by and drinks and eats all the food, but never really offers to pay or even bring anything. And the other guy, he has known since he was in elementary school, and we always go hang out at his house, and go on camping trips with him, and I know he would do anything for my guy. But he never really likes to do anything other than hang at his house, and the other friend would always be down to do anything, at anytime. Oh and the first guy, already thinks he is going to be the Best Man. My guy was just thinking going netural, and picking someone else. Any advice?

 
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Submitted 148 days ago...

Susu

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Actually here are the responsibilities of the best man. First of all, he is responsible for paying for his own tux! and the bachelor party, the groom should pay NOTHING for this.
Also, these are the other things:
Picks up all the tuxes and accessories making sure EVERYTHING is there, not assuming.

Make absolutely sure that the groom has the marriage license with him.

Receive the minister's fee from the groom and give it to the minister privately following the ceremony.

Help the groom pack for his honeymoon.

Help the groom dress for the ceremony.

If a ring bearer is to be in the wedding, the Best Man is responsible to oversee the child and be sure he understands his duties. (See note below)

Assist with luggage arrangements for both the bride and the groom so that everything will be ready for their departure.

Make sure car or travel arrangements are set and that the groom is carrying any necessary reservations, tickets, money and travelers checks.

The Best Man will want to ride to the church with the groom.

It is the Best Man's responsibility to make sure the ushers are together and ready before the ceremony begins. Many weddings have been delayed by dilly dallying ushers who are either cutting up to relieve the tension they feel or are out having the last quick puff on a cigarette.

Alert ushers as to the ladies who will be wearing flowers and make sure they are not seated before receiving them.

Check all the men's boutonnieres. These should always be worn on the left lapel, stem down.

Perform any task or errand the groom or the bride's mother may request at the church.

If applicable, remind the groom to remove his gloves as the bride comes down the aisle.

Be first at the reception in order to welcome the bride and groom.

The Best Man is responsible to make the first toast to the bride and groom at the wedding. The Best Man is also responsible to make the first toast at the rehearsal dinner.

The Best Man should act as a host, making introductions when necessary and helping to make the guests feel welcome.

The Best Man should dance at the reception with the bride, both mothers and as many of the bridal attendants and guest as possible.

Help the groom change into his travel clothes after the reception. Find out when the bride is ready to leave and with the maid/matron of honors, help the bride and groom depart.

Return the groom's tuxedo to the tux shop or if it belongs to the groom, be responsible for taking it to the cleaners.

Order flowers for the bride and groom's room at the first stop of the honeymoon trip.

Another responsibility of the Best Man may include the signing of the marriage certificate. This is not only a legal document but also a beautiful keepsake for the couple. Many times, the Best Man is not aware that his signature may be required and he may be off with the guests.

Note about ring bearer: The Best Man has the responsibility of carrying the bride's wedding ring. However, many times the couple will also want to have a ring bearer. The "real" ring be kept safe in the pocket of the Best Man.

So who is most likely up for the task? Again, good luck. Susu


This answer was edited by Susu 148 days ago.

Reason: typo

 

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