If your daughter is important to you, do what you have to to make sure that your daughters life is the best that it can be. It makes total sense that you want her back with you and want to make up for lost time with her. At the same time, where is the best environment for her? Where is the stability? Do you know without a doubt that you can give her that? If you really believe that being back with you is the best thing for her, then I say do whatever you can to have them give her back to you. It won't be easy.....or fast. You asked about being sick and what the difference is. Being sick is not a choice, drugs and alcohol are. And, they may worry that it is something that you may choose again. If you decide that her home now is the best place for her, your relative may see that as a sign that you are moving in the right direction and start to allow more visitation. Trust is earned and I'm sure they have some fear there around leaving the little girl, who they love very much, with someone they think might relapse. If your daughter is old enough, you can ask her what she wants. You don't have to give up parental rights. You would be visiting like a divorced dad would. I hope it all works out for all of you.


