The judge can give you joint custody if you both want it. As far as child support the judge is not going to allow the absent parent not to pay any child support just because he or she does not want to pay it. In the milatary I have seen the absent parent pay far more then the parents that are not in the service. This is going to be up to the court to dicide. Some of the factors in deciding child support are if the parents have joint custody and each parent has the child 50/50 of the time and what each parent makes.


