I'm sorry, he sounds like a jerk. It's hard but don't be afraid of him. You have rights, and the courts will honor your rights. In time he may settle down. You might document everything he does. It's possible he's in contempt, depending upon what your divorce decree says.
The kids are old enough to know what's going on, just love them as much as you can. It's your choice, but not telling them about it seems like a good idea.


