I'm sorry to say he may be on drugs and has you all snowed or is heavily depressed. Seek medical help for him immediately. You can not change this person. They have to do it themselves. Do not under any circumstances enable him to remain like this. This means setting boundaries that he needs to move out and get job and be on his own. He may flounder and fail but it is up to him. Under no circumstances give him money. Only be emotionally supportive and a good listener.

