If your ex has never filed for custody of your child then she does not legally have custody though the court and so there would be know visitaions ordered or court ordered child suppot. What you need to do is file for joint custody,your ex will be served and have to appear in court and at that time visitation and child support will be ordered all though the court. She cannot keep you from having visitaions but you will have to go though the court to get them.

