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Hi there. I beleive that the custody and care of the child should be discussed between your daughter and the natural father. What are her feelings? Is she ready to take the responsibility of mothering? What about the father? Do they have any intention of marrying and raising the child together? Or if not marrying, do they both wish to raise the child together with split care? The care and future of this child should be agreed upon. A good family/custody lawyer could advise as to the legalities and any paperwork to be filed, etc.

If neither is ready to take on the responsibility of caring for the child and no extended family members (including yourself) are open to this either, then adoption could be a viable solution for the child as well as one of millions of couples who yearn for a child yet cannot have one naturally.

I can understand with being a mother of grown children, that you may not want to take on the responsibility to raise this baby. However, I am a bit alarmed at your comment with regard to the child being inter-racial, especially if this is your basis for not wanting to care for it. Your grandchild regardless of race should be loved just the same as any other living human. His/her future care should not be tossed around like a little unexpected hot potato that didn't bake to your liking. Forgive me if this is not the case with you and my interpretation of your posting is incorrect. But if it is correct, shame on you!

If your daughter doesn't want her baby, she shouldn't be having a baby. And I'm sure if she doesn't want a baby, the daddy won't have a use for one either!

This is your grandchild your talking about. Have you thought about what lifes going to be like for this child? Not having a mom? Not having grandparents? Don't you think that would be kind a hard? Haven't you once thought about whats best for this baby and not about what you think would be best for you? This child could be the next president or the next American Idol or maybe just the class Valedictorian or maybe a star athlete or a good dancer. Don't you want to give them a chance at this? Im not saying you should do it, because obviously you've already decided you want no part in this childs life and if thats how your going to be about it then its probably better off that way anyway..

What im saying is you really need to discuss adoption with the mother. There a people all over the world who actually want babies, and who cant have babies, and who dont care what race a baby is....all they want is to be a parent. And they would be more than happy to have this baby as their own and give it a great life. Think about it.

go to www.americanadoptions.com

look at the families adoption has helped, get information, and talk with the mother of this baby.

This baby deserves a chance at a great life with a loving stable family!

First off, does the father want the the child?
You seem to be getting bashed, & I really do not understand why.
The baby's interest should be first! The baby deserves a chance to be raised with love & caring!
If, the mother nor you can do that, then by all means, see if the father can give this child a chance at a wonderful life that it deserves!
It takes a strong person to admit they cannot take care of a child & to relinquish custody. Please look into adoption & give this child the chance it deserves, many people r able to do what you cannot do.

First off , many women who do not want to have children (myself included) get pregnant and during the pregnancy and birth they feel bonded with the child and don't want to give it up. This child came to be for some reason, and if your daughter nor you care about it, then please do ask the father if he wants the child. If he doesn't, adoption is always a wonderful option for those who DO want children but are unfortunate not to be able to bear them. I know in NC (not sure about other states) there is a safe-surrender law stating that before the baby turns 7 days old, the mother can give the child to any responsible adult, no questions asked. This child deserves the best life out there. Also, are you concerned about the child being biracial? That should not pose a problem nor should you nor your daughter not want this child based on that reason alone.