Sleeping with mom and wanting to be rocked in the night

3 months is not the time to worry about this behavior, and it is quiet normal. 1 year is when most pediatricians recommend you break the sleeping with mom habit. His waking in the night is not suprising at all, particularly if he is teething. Is he still eating at night as well? Most babies his age still wake up hungry at least 1 time a night.

Teething is new to him and you. He wants the comfort of Mom thats all. I will share with you that when my son was a baby he slept with me every night. It was so much easier because I was nursing. I probably did start a habit because he always wanted me to lay down with him when it was time to go to bed. He's 15 now. I don't regret it a bit. He grew out of it and now I miss all that snuggle time I used to have with him. Speaking from experience they grow up way too fast. As long as it doesn't bother you cherish the special time to hold, rock or just snuggle with him. Best of luck

Hey Jodi-Mesa.....This is really another question but along the same lines of this thread.

On this same co-sleeping subject: I recently read some statistics from Alabama that revealed a much higher level SIDS rate for infants who co-slept with parents vs. not.

I shared my concerns with my daughter and her fiance about the matter as I'm terrified that their two week old infant might get rolled over onto or elbowed, squished or suffocated. My daughter feels that she's very well aware of him when he is sleeping with her and doesn't think that I should be concerned. I remember the bonding with she and I and how wonderful the snuggling and closeness was and would occaisionally sleep with her on the couch. But for the most part, she slept in her little basinette next to my bed and never in bed with her father and I.

She's got the maternal instincts and awareness but her fiance doesn't and he could unknowingly flop onto the baby anytime during the night in his sleep. I've suggested that she limit her sleeping with the baby when it's just her and the baby on the couch or fouton, but to otherwise put him in the basinette.

I want my grandson to have the best of both worlds (safety and close bonding). Does Dr. Sears have specific precautions that should be followed if and when co-sleeping is practiced?

Thanks much!

I love Dr. Sears As far as co-sleeping. Both my babies slept with us. It saved me getting up to nurse them and they were content. They are now 12 and 15. I have noregrets and they are both happy and healthy.
It all depends on how you feel.

This is normal behaviour. My son is 16 months and still wakes up in the middle of the night at least twice. There are many resources out there that offer solutions, you just have to search around. Jane318 provides a good place as I have used that one as well. A good place to share ideas and stories is momreality.

Grandmother -

I definatly understand your concern! I think that the baby will be fine, but by having the baby sleep WITH them can cause it's own problems. I think all things in moderation and this day and age there is someone that makes a product to solve the problem!

I know as a recent 1st time mommy that I wanted her to sleep with me more so that I knew she was ok, more than anything. It's the only way to get sleep. At the same time, I didn't like complete co-sleeping because that could affect the closeness with my husband, so we met in the middle.

By putting a co-sleeper bassinet next to the bed I could just roll over and make sure she was still breathing, but she wasn't IN bed. She had her own space. This actually made the transition to her own room when she was about 4 months old MUCH easier than babies that co-sleep.

My mom is so tactful and never wants to be the butt in mom, but I think she felt the same way at first. So she bought me the Tracey Hoggs book (which is still VERY valuable) and while I don't agree with everything she says, it introduced me to some tools that gave me the confidence to find what works for us. It may be a non-intrusive way to suggest that she should try something else.

Here are the co-sleeping bassinets they have at target:

http://www.target.com/gp/search/601-3385625-4765754?field-keywords=co% 20sleeping%20bed&afid=google&CPNG=Sports&LNM=co_sleeping_bed&LID=16954 86&ref=tgt_adv_XSGT0775

Hope that helps!

Thank you Jodi-Mesa. I agree with that the co-sleeping in moderation will make the transition to the crib/own room much easier and have mentioned that to my daughter. I like the idea of the co-sleeper basinets! I will have her take a look at them. The one that I purchased for her, while right next to her bed, isn't as accessable.

Thanks again :)

Hi he 3 mo. baby at that age need to be next to u but how much i know i have a 15mo. old and i have still rock him to sleep lol so i think i need holp with that to
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I think it's up to the parent and how long they want to do this. As long as it's done safely it's okay. I personally didn't want to have to break my baby of this at an older age. I let my older son sleep with me and I couldn't break him of it until he was 5 - and even then we had him sneaking back in. We didn't get him 100% in his own bed/room until he was 7! I did not want to go through that again. I used the "cry it out" method when my baby was 3 months old. It's actually not nearly as bad as it sounds / or what I expected. Took about 4-5 nights. He is now 15 months and for every nap, and for bedtime (7pm every night, no exceptions) I take him in to his crib, read, say nite nite and leave and shut the door. He goes right to sleep. No fighting, crying (unless he's sick of course, but I still make him fall asleep in his bed). It's wonderful! He also has been sleeping through the night since he was 4 months old and I believe it is because of this. I would reccomend it to anyone who doesn't want to be rocking their child to sleep for 5 years. If you don't correct it now, it just gets worse, and harder to break.

Oh - I also make sure we get plenty of cuddle and bonding time during the day and have a cuddly bedtime routine so he's not missing out on any love either. ;-)