Best Man? Best Friend?

If the first guy doesn't pay for anything, then of course he is up for anything. It's free. The other friend may be less active because he is a responsible person who pays his bills first and can't afford too many extras. If he is everything that you listed above, and has been that way since elementary school, your guy is extremely lucky to have an authentic friend. It doesn't sound like he asks for much from his friend.

Actually here are the responsibilities of the best man. First of all, he is responsible for paying for his own tux! and the bachelor party, the groom should pay NOTHING for this.
Also, these are the other things:
Picks up all the tuxes and accessories making sure EVERYTHING is there, not assuming.

Make absolutely sure that the groom has the marriage license with him.

Receive the minister's fee from the groom and give it to the minister privately following the ceremony.

Help the groom pack for his honeymoon.

Help the groom dress for the ceremony.

If a ring bearer is to be in the wedding, the Best Man is responsible to oversee the child and be sure he understands his duties. (See note below)

Assist with luggage arrangements for both the bride and the groom so that everything will be ready for their departure.

Make sure car or travel arrangements are set and that the groom is carrying any necessary reservations, tickets, money and travelers checks.

The Best Man will want to ride to the church with the groom.

It is the Best Man's responsibility to make sure the ushers are together and ready before the ceremony begins. Many weddings have been delayed by dilly dallying ushers who are either cutting up to relieve the tension they feel or are out having the last quick puff on a cigarette.

Alert ushers as to the ladies who will be wearing flowers and make sure they are not seated before receiving them.

Check all the men's boutonnieres. These should always be worn on the left lapel, stem down.

Perform any task or errand the groom or the bride's mother may request at the church.

If applicable, remind the groom to remove his gloves as the bride comes down the aisle.

Be first at the reception in order to welcome the bride and groom.

The Best Man is responsible to make the first toast to the bride and groom at the wedding. The Best Man is also responsible to make the first toast at the rehearsal dinner.

The Best Man should act as a host, making introductions when necessary and helping to make the guests feel welcome.

The Best Man should dance at the reception with the bride, both mothers and as many of the bridal attendants and guest as possible.

Help the groom change into his travel clothes after the reception. Find out when the bride is ready to leave and with the maid/matron of honors, help the bride and groom depart.

Return the groom's tuxedo to the tux shop or if it belongs to the groom, be responsible for taking it to the cleaners.

Order flowers for the bride and groom's room at the first stop of the honeymoon trip.

Another responsibility of the Best Man may include the signing of the marriage certificate. This is not only a legal document but also a beautiful keepsake for the couple. Many times, the Best Man is not aware that his signature may be required and he may be off with the guests.

Note about ring bearer: The Best Man has the responsibility of carrying the bride's wedding ring. However, many times the couple will also want to have a ring bearer. The "real" ring be kept safe in the pocket of the Best Man.

So who is most likely up for the task? Again, good luck. Susu

This answer was edited by Susu 110 days ago.

Reason: typo

Wow, that is really some important information! Thank you so much! I'm sorry to hear about your son's friend. He sounds like a jerk! I agree with you 100%, and feel he should choose the friend since elementary!

Also to Autumnspirt, you are right about him being responsible, he is! I agree he is lucky to have a friend like him! Thanks!

How about asking his father to be the best man.