Did Counselor Cross The Ethical Line To The Dark Side?

I am currently going through a custody battle after raising my daughter alone for over 4 yrs. My ex has brought many pages worth of allegations against me to court and I was ordered to provide my daughter immediate counseling. I met with the counselor and provided her with all court documents. She met with my daughter on two occasions before meeting with her father. Although I provided her with all the accusations, after meeting with him, she decides then to call CPS. They have visited my daughter at school and my home on 2 different occasions for 2 different reports. They found nothing on each visit. The counselor now asks that I drop my daughter off and leave her alone. She interrogates her about me and never ?'s about Daddy. My daughter told her recently she knew Daddy went to jail. Instead of asking her how she felt about that, her response to my daughter is, oh honey, that was all a misunderstanding. There was no misunderstanding the guy got into a fight with a police officer. I have yet to say anything negative about my ex to the counselor or to defend what was said about me. It should be obvious that as terrible as these things were, I should be in jail for many different crimes and my daughter would have already been taken from me. I think her entire focus should be about my daughter and if she is happy and mentally healthy.

Should I confront her about her actions and her methods?

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Submitted 310 days ago...

ldsch

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The reality here is that you should keep your act clean and let this silly charade run its course. If you take an antagonistic or confrontational attitude towards the counselor, you will come off all the worse for it. These CPS counselors are for the most part incompetent, untrained and frustrated in their own lives. They delight in interfering in other peoples' lives because of their own miserable personal existence. You are right about what the counselor's focus "should be" but "should be" carries very little weight in the CPS system. They are on a perpetual witch hunt and backing them into a corner motivates them to behave irrationally and very much to your detriment. Be nice, smile and if you are in the right, things should work out OK after they run you through the mill for awhile. They enjoy throwing their power around. Let them enjoy their game. If it appears things are really turning against you, retain a good attorney with experience in battling CPS. Remember, we're dealing with an agency that once took a child away from its mother because the mother "felt good" while breastfeeding the child..

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