Get ready to go through custoday fight..worried in mich

I live in michigan and i am currently getting ready to go through a divorse and custody fight for my son...recently my husband has treatned me that he was gonna get custody of my son because on occiasian i have gone out for a night on the town with friends and family to see a local band who have been good friends of mine for many years long before husband and i married, i have left my children in the care of family and other caregivers who are responsable that babysat for us when my husband and i were together..first question is does it make me unfit to have a simple night with friends and family..and second question is i have male friends who have stop over and said hello to me or help fix something around my house know affection has been shown to these male friends but husband keeps treating that he can prove me unfit for that..just need answer i am a loving mother who has devoted my life to my children and my soon to be x husband is making me feel like im not...

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Submitted 326 days ago...

airforcemom

Expert (822)

1st off, do not have other men coming around your child, some people put into divorce decree no introducing kids to opp sex til u have dated for at least 6 mo, this is just common sense, your kids r already confused & no not need more confusion. A judge knows the dif between a good parent & will not be swayed by the stories your ex is saying. Have your male friends stop by when kids r not there, please!

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Submitted 326 days ago...

StarZ_Keeper

Beginner (20)

If your 'going out' is not interferring in your childs general, physical or mental welfare you should be able to have a social life. You should wait until you are divorced to interact with opposite sex.

airforcemom is correct in as a judge knows the difference and children should not be subjected to opposite sex 'friends' until a reasonable period. They go through enough emotions in a divorce as it is without adding to them.

You will have plenty of time for socialism after the dust settles with your ex and all decrees are in place. If your husband is truly wanting custody, and not just threatening you because he is jealous or wanting you back, your actions and responses will be under glass. Be careful not to leave the judge with any gray areas of your character.

Your childrens welfare should be the most important thing on your mind right now through this difficult time for all of you. Be patient. In the mean time, go out when your child is with his father. If you want company, meet them away from your home when the children are in school or with father.

Hope this helps.

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