After a child is 13-years-old the judge will take her say into consideration. You sound like you are on the right page and if you are proactive and go through the process first (filing for custody) then whether you are married or unmarried, mom or dad it will make no difference. The judge will want both parents in the childs life more than likely, so she may be granted joint custody. Every situation is different. Just be proactive and talk to the sources you need to get the ball rolling. Good luck.


