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Submitted 323 days ago...

MaryJane

MaryJane

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My ex boyfriend and I have joint custody and he is custodial parent

The court had an attorney evaluate which parent was the better fit for "custodial" parent. At the time I was visiting my child because he took her out of town to live with his parents when we broke up. The attorney who came to see how I lived, my home and my relationship with my daughter turned out to be a disaster because my ex-boyfriend had her tell the attorney that she wanted to go home and that she though mommy was "mean". Needless to say joint custody was granted as my ex "custodial" parent. I am married, have a 4 bedroom house, 2 other daughters (her sisters), non smoking, non drugs, with a husband who has a strong financial savings and a very stable relationship. My ex (at the time he won the case) lived on top of a bar and in a housing unit that was falling apart. My daughter who now visits me on a plan (2x a week and every other weekend (she's 4) talks about sex, has foul language. I asked my ex about this and he says he has talked to her about it. She is learning this from his girlfriend's family (nieces and nephews who visit them often and play with her) He failed to have car insurance and recently hit another vehicle and is getting sued. He lives in a small apartment community for low income and has asked me to write a statement verifying that I pay him child support (which I do) so he can get benefits from the state for medicaid and welfare. His girlfriend stays at home with my daughter all day...what can I do if anything in this situation.

 
 
 
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Submitted 316 days ago...

HouserRW

HouserRW

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If you are strong financially as you say.. you should get an attorney. It is a lot of information that really only an attorney can present without it sounding as though you are a knit-picking the custodial parent. I am surprised that the decision was based on what sounds to be one visit...usually it is a series of visits before a decision can be made...over a period of a couple months....either way an attorney is your best best. The fact that he is low income and on welfare really doesn't mean anything. It will not really support your case ..but the fact that he had an accident and was uninsured might.

 

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Submitted 189 days ago...

sidelko

sidelko

Brain (3,055)

That is a tough situation, and you got the bad end of that deal.

you just have to go back and ask the courts to re-evaluate which parent is the better fit now. and just point out the foul language that your kid is learning with her dad

 
 

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