You need to plan your vacations around the times that you have stipulated visitation,if you have any summer weeks stipulated. however by law what is supose to be done is the parent(s) are two give written notice to the other parent within a reasonable amount of time letting them know the date that the parent(s) are leaving and a return date,where their going and a phone number where the child/children can be reached at. If the custodial parent has prior arrangements when you give notice then they are not following the stipulation of the court, had they given you notice prior to you giving them notice this would not be a promblem, this can be hard on the children and if the parent(s) verbally abuse the children into not wanting their plans stated to the other parent,then that just shows that parent is not being up front by letting you no of their plans. This is not a hard thing to do,it sounds like it is a battle of wills here, this is not a game,if the custodial and non-custodial can not work this out then the non-custodial parent could file a motion enforcing parenting time,and that could end both parents into mediation,so the best thing to do is follow the guide lines by giving written noticeand send it certified if you have to, one day you may have to go to court over this and you will be able to show the court how you handled it,and that the custodial parent just ignored your wishes,commuication is what this is all about,and maybe a little power trip on the custodial parent.
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Shared Custody & Vacations
We have a situation where my wife and I share custody with my step kids with my wife's ex and his wife. In general the arrangement works well, but at times we don't see eye to eye on things, and the kids get almost attacked verbally on many different situations based on the other party believing we do certain things to potentially wreck their plans. My question is - so I can keep my own sanity is this - When we plan a vacation we share the dates with the other family at the earliest conveniences - for us as we are planners sometimes that is 8 months in advance. However - sometimes without our knowing, supposedly the same trip was to be planned at the other home during the same summer - however at a different time. The kids are attacked verbaly as if they must've shared vacation information with us, and then we miracusally setup a vacation in front of theirs to share in the experience first. At a loss here - are you really suppose to check with the other parent what trip they plan so each party has the "first" experience setup. My wife and I could care less if we are first, its the vacation we want to take - we see it as a benefit if the kids get to go twice - they tell the kids look your mom ruined our vacation now we aren't going to go. We believe it is a cop out, and just a way to say - fine now we aren't taking that trip. Opinions? Should we check first on locations - we think not! Thanks for your thoughts.
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