Sorry to say that custody is a legal term and if you have not gone to court, then you will have to work out time with your daughter between the two of you. In order to get legal rights to your daughter, you will have to file for joint custody because until the court has assigned custody rights and obligations, you can't have the system enforce it. Does that make sense.
It would cost a couple hundred dollars, but you would have the right to see your daughter and your ex would not be able to keep her away from you. Good luck!

