Mysons grandparents are stirring the pot...

My ex and i had a child together, we werent married and have since split up. I was letting my ex's parents see my son when they wanted to,under the condition my ex was'nt allowed to be around while they had hm. They agreed completely saying he was a bad influence and Josh did'nt need to be around him. I later found out they had been going behind my back the whole time doing exactly what I didnt want.I called them this morning to tell them I had read in the paper that my son's "dad" is sitting in jail for writing bad checks,property damage,domestic violence against his mom, and selling/delivering drugs.I dont feel my son should be around that.They got mad when i said I didnt feel comfy leaving him with them anymore. They can visit anytime and they know this, but they want to always take him for a week at atime, and thats hard for me to anyway, but I trusted they would do what i asked. There are no court orders for anything. They told me they were going to get a lawyer. What should I do?

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Submitted 246 days ago...

tmboring

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Just stand your ground! If they fight you in court for grandparents rights, have the newspaper clipping with you and tell the court everything you have said here. Tell the court that you have told them that they can see the child whenever they want, but be sure it is at your home, with someone there. If all else fails, try to seek an order of protection against the father, that way he can't be near the child or you. Good luck to you!

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Submitted 245 days ago...

Blame279

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Thank you very much for your insight tmboring. I know I need to stand my ground but these people play dirty and fight to win everything. My son's grandfather is an ex cop and just about ex-everything else. He's a real hard-headed man and he's very intimidating and can make things look the way he wants them to.The reason I left his son in the first place is because he hit me and there was no way I was staying with him because if he'd hit me, then what would he do to my son?He's got domestic violence against his mother, how horrible is that?I am so scared for my son, what if I lose this battle and he gets pushed into that unhealhty ,unloving situation?I'm strict with my son, but always with love. I am proud of him, he's 2 years old and says please and thank you no matter what and yes sir and yes maam. He's a wonderful child and he's soooo smart. I honestly feel he's this way because me and my spouse work with him and his "dad" doesn't see him,this child wouldn't be where he is today if hed've been unde his "dad's" care.His "dad" does'nt take any responsibility at all, but still won't sign his rights over,only because his father and stepmom would literally,kill him.

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Submitted 239 days ago...

tmboring

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Do you have legal custody of your son? If you don't, I would try to petition the court for full custody of him and have no visitation set because of these past issues. You still won't need a lawyer, just go in and state your case. If you do find yourself needing a lawyer, and your income is within the limits (you will have to check on that) you can try for a DA, a pro bono lawyer, or sometimes they have low income assistance in your community. I hope all works out for you!

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