Neglect/abuse custody

I have to ask, why has your son deserted his children? Does he have a drug problem too? He should be the one stepping up to the plate now. These are his children and they need him now. I am glad that you as grandparents have taken these children in, but you have done your time as parents and your son needs to start being a man and take on the responsiblities that HE made! Is he at least paying child support? Are you getting finacial help to support these children?
I assume that you went to court to get temp custody of the children?! I am guessing that it will be longer than 2 weeks that you have them, because they not only have to show clean, but they have to stay clean for a period of time before getting children back, then she will most likely be tested for a period of time after she gets them back (if she even does get them back) and if she fails a test, the children will be taken again! My suggestion to you would be that you file for custody for a period of time with the mother being tested every week for drugs and after say 6 months of being totally clean she can have them back as long as she stays clean. If she doesn't you get full custody. You can talk to the people DCFS and find out what your rights are. One other thing, before you go through all of this, I would suggest that you talk to your local Family Court and find out who they use for DNA testing and have your son find out for sure that these are his children, anyone can sign a birth cert. if they are willing to, but that doesn't mean they are the biological father, only DNA will prove that! Whatever the out come of everything is, the bottom line is that these children didn't ask for any of this and they need all the love and support they can get! Best of luck to you!

Our son became involved with drugs with the children's mother and has not done right by his children at all. We provide for the children by buying their clothes, shoes, diapers, daycare expenses, etc. Our son KNOWS he is not fit to take care of the children and refuses rehab...we can't make him go. He will voluntarily get DNA tested and sign anything to let us have guardianship but the mother wants her welfare benefits: housing, medical assistance, food stamps and will not relinquish custody because of this. (i have a recorded message on my phone where she states that it will "mess everything up" meaning she will lose benefits if she signs guardianship papers!)

We do NOT receive any type of financial support for the children NOR do we want any help. We will do what is best for the children and provide for them 100%! We both work full time and are professionals. We actually retained an attorney yesterday and the mother has now said when she gets the kids back we will never see them again. She is very bitter that her housing which was supposed to come through this week is on hold.

Tell her we don't put children on this earth for free and reduce benefits! Tell her to get a life and when she grews up and becomes an adult that some day she might have the privilege of having her children back! If she can't repect herself first, she will never resect anyone else, not even her children! If you are fine with not getting any help with the children, that is fine, but I am a firm beleiver in the fact that if you made them, you care for them! ( that is just my personal thought!) My hubby and I have 7 children altogether (I had 4 he had 2 and we have 1 together) and there isn't one that I would trade for the world, even threw all the ups and downs they have gone through ( they are: b-23, g-21, g- 19, b- 18 1/2, b- 16, g-16, g- 4). I would give up everything I have for every single one of them.
Save the massage that you have on your phone and any other things you may have as proof. Hope all goes well for your family.

Well the children were placed with you tempory until the mother is cleared negative for drugs. it does not sound like she is going to be. If she is not clean the courts will not give her the children back. you can do one of two things. I would talk to the mother and see if she will sigh allowing you to get guardianship. Tell her if she does not come out clean on her drug test that the courts can place the kids in foster care or a family member. If she refuses than I would file for guardianship ASAP telling the judge that your daughter is still doing drugs. CPS is involved so the courts can give you graduianship. They would rather have a family member to care for the kids than to put them in froster care. You should file a motion to the court ASAP and try to get this done. The kids need to know that they are going to be cared for.