Addiction to chemical substances is a two headed beast. First you have the physical addiction where the body has become tolerant to constantly having the subtance in your body. Then when you remove the substance suddenly this is what precipitates the withdrawals from the substance. Second is the mental, or behavioral aspect of addiction where your thinking and certain habits resulted in a dependancy. So to beat a chemical addiction you need to address both areas.
I suggest you speak to the doctor who prescribed the valium and xanax. They can suggest the best way to handle the physcial addiction either by tapering your dosage down a little bit each day or every few days until your body has learned to function again without the substance.
The behavioral part is probably the longest part in that you need to find a therapist and/or someone who deals with the behavioral aspect of addiction. You will need to work on the issues that brought you to this point in your life. It may be a current situation or a past situation but you will need to relearn the best way for you to deal with the anxiety and stress that this situation brings up in you that make you lean twards a "pill" instead of dealing with it appropriately.
Stress and anxiety are a part of everyones life and there is absolutely no way to avoid it. Even taking pills to deal with it, eventually those pills wear and off those problems are still there. You need to learn a better way to deal with those issues. If not, then you may be able to quit the pills but end up with an addiction to something else so you definately need to work on that because it is then and only then will you be able to honestly beat your addiction.
good luck!
