Wife had child from an affair while married

Well i know you are not the father, but u have been the DAD i would assume, now i can say this if you have been the only dad in his/her life and after ur divorce u will will continue to be involved in the childs life u may want to help support him/her or the mother may say u cant see the child at all, there are ways with the court that if you pay cause u have been the dad all these years you would still get visitation rights... (my brother pays and has visitation rights for a child not his, and that was his choice) if u think u can walk away from this child after 10 years then thats on u, but consider the child and how he or she will feel if you are not in his or her life. a 10 yr old will understand that he she has a different biological father, but u have been the dad to him or her and u love him/her... im not sure how the court will look at it if you are on the birth cert... u may have to pay anyways if u are the only father the child knows and on the birth certificate, but then u would have rights ... so i hope you make the right decision(be in the childs life) cause the one who will hurt the most in this will be the child and if you are a decent Guy u will not hurt this child, and stay involved ... this is a child of 10 yrs old and i know that after all this time that child loves u and knows u as daddy ..... good luck with ur choice

I agree with kelly that you should take into consideration what the child will feel. But if you are not planning on being a part of the childs life, then take the DNA report to your lawyer as you may be able to have all rights and responsibility removed from you. Also, consult a lawyer and ask if it is possible for you to have visitation but not have to support the child since you seem to know who the father is. I mean to me, if she goes after him for child support and it is ordered on you as well, then she is double dipping. You may actually get a judge who can order the other guy to have a DNA test. Judges are really cracking down on deadbeat dads because it is unnecessarily causing women to go on public assistance. Good luck to you. Sus

You are going to need a lawer to have your self removed from the birth certificate and put the financal responsibility on the correct person ===i agree with the young ladies above me that this is going to have far reaching ramifications especially for the boy --sooner or later he is going to find out and you need to figure out the best way to handle it ===no mater what someone will tell him you arent his biological father and he should know there is nothing like being lied to all your life you may want to talk to a pediatric physiologist and i would suggest you both talk to him/her