Confused mother of two..

Im 24 yrs old with a 2 & a 4 yr old..there father went to prison almost 4 yrs ago.. i never had anyone to talk to about it all..i guess i never coped with the pain. Soon after he got locked up I found out I was pregnant with my youngest.. I soon after met a man I am now married to. He is in the USMC and has been deployed often throughout our marriage but has raised my two boys! There biological father is getting out of prison in 1 week & my husband is asking me to come home before he gets released! Im so confused on what to do because I truely care about them both..I really only want whats best for my boys...what is best? Im so confused,alone, & dont know what to do...any advice?

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Submitted 287 days ago...

Jodi-Mesa

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That is a hard situation. You did make a commitment to the man you are married to, so I think you will know our answers. You sound as if you are lonely, first having someone who went to prison and then someone who was gone all of the time. I think that you should stay with your husband, who has loved you and helped you raise your children, but if you think your ex is a safe person, and should have rights to visit his children you should work that out as well. Good luck!

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Submitted 283 days ago...

lexibumblebe

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My daughters father is in prison also but no matter what he is still her father and i would never deny that to either of them as long as he keeps doing whats right. i believe every child should be a part of their biological fathers life because so many children never get that chance but as for the other issue all i can say is follow your heart

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Submitted 282 days ago...

ASKme

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You sound lonely...maybe your new husband, being in the military, isn't around alot? But the question is when he is available, does he do right by you and your kids? He is working, he has a reason for not being around, unlike someone who made bad choices...Not to say that people don't change but, it would take alot of great behavior for me to trust that person again. I would allow for visitation because he is the biological father, but I would stay away from them forming the complete father-son bond. You don't want a person who makes bad choices to be an influence on your kids!
Besides, they will be growing up with your current husband as their step-dad, and you all will be sharing the same roof. Try to find an intermediary, to be your contact with your ex. Don't keep it a secret, no one wants anyone's feelings to be hurt. I would treat your ex as an aquaintance only.

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Submitted 281 days ago...

lisa24

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Not all ppl that are in prison are bad ppl and its like right away ppl assume that! As for choosing my husband over him.. of course I made a commitment to him but how do you know to follow your heart? Maybe because iM

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