A Innocent Crush

You should stay away from the friend for a while so you can resolve the feelings you have for him, get over him....if you know that you will never have that relationship with him you need to let it go...for your sake, it will destroy your now relationship....TRUST ME, had the same thing happen to me, but I am married for 8 years and felt the same way bout the best friend....definatly take the time to get over it!!!!

I agree with Banda

Crushes are totally ok - mine is Johnny Depp. As long as you don't cheat and act on them then you are fine :)

I would be careful justifying your feelings for your bf's friend by saying "they aren’t really that close anyways.”

If you have feelings for another guy who’s your bf's friend it’s obvious there are qualities that your bf now doesn’t posses, the tricky thing about this is you have to be honest with yourself and pick apart the reason to see if maybe these are qualities you REALLY need to have for a partner. After 8 years in a relationship one would expect this to be a seasoned relationship enough to have figured the qualities of Mr. Man now that exceed a little crush. By the way, I’ve learned that the attraction of sexuality can sir come even the most genuine characteristics.

If love was blind, we would never go for the bad boys. ;)

It is normal to be attracted to other people. We are humans it's very natural. You shouldn't feel like you are being bad this happens to everyone.

I sometimes tease my boyfriend saying things like "Oh wow you finally got a cute friend" , "make sure you give our waiter a really good tip, he was very good and he was hot." I also know that it's normal for him to be attracted to other women.

The thing is that you are not acting on this and I doubt you intend to. You have no intention of cheating or going beyond friendly flirting. I think your boyfriend is already clued in to the fact that you flirt with his friend and it doesn't bother him because you have a secure relationship.

So it's very healthy, friendly flirting makes you feel good about yourself, and that translates to your relationship.

I say its fine if you feel that way about him.

if you ever start thinking about this other guy while you are having sex with your boyfriend, or think about what it would be like to leave your bf for this guy, or actually having an affair with him, then you should start to wonder if your heart is still with your bf and if he is right for you.