How do i make myself stay away from my heroin addict boyfriend?

It all depends on how serious you really are. If you are truly serious about keeping him away from you and your kids then you have 3 options>

1. Tell him out right
2. Get a court ordered protection order
3. Move

You have to decide if he is stable enough to handle rejection or that he might try something. You have 2 reasons to consider the course of action.

The faster you take action tjhe faster things will get back to normal and you will get on with your life. It sounds like you are being used and hopefully he hasnt lefted any of his drugs items in your car or home that if police would come and find. You may want to call the local police and ask how do you go about having you house looked at due to your boyfriend. Be careful when dealing with the boyfriend.

Thanks brian. i appreciate your input. yes, i am very serious about staying away. i make up my mind, and then boom... i dont know what happens, i end up wanting to see him again! its a roller coaster ride and i want to get off for good now! its not all him. i am the one who picks up his calls and wants to see him too. but deep down inside i know i shouldnt. make sense? i have told him over and over to please leave me alone. because it is hard for me to stay away. my next option would probably be a restraining order. again, thank you.

Hello i had this problem be4 i met my husband when you love someone you just want to be around them no matter even if you know that there no good for you then i thought that if i really wanted to do it i can no matter how much you love him it not wroth it think about your kids everytime you get the ugre to answer the phone when he calls you is he wroth losing your kids over if you think that he might harm you or your kids i would get a court protection order that way if he come near you or your kids or house you can have him pick up on the spot please don't let him talk you back into his life you sound like you are doing good for yourself in your kids that all that matters

Thanks for your input. yes, that is what all my friends and family tells me too - think about your kids when u wanna answer the phone or see him. and sometiems i do, and sometimes i just want him! its like this urge that wont go away. he is like a drug. i feel like an addict. seriously. i changed my number twice, not because he harrasses me, but because i cant stay away! now i think he gave me an std! and if he uses needles, maybe he gave me something else. i feel like such a failiure as a mother.

Yes, u r right. i do feel like an addict with this man. i do not bring him around my kids - havent in a long time. i only did the first couple months, before i knew he was an addict. and that is why i posted this - because i know its a problem and somehting i want to and should stop. but, it is obviously not easy. just like any other addiction. i didnt ask for pity, just advice.

Honey im an addict to and wouldnt harm a fly on my daughters or girlfrends head.i got adicted du o doctors not prescribing enough pain releif for me which uned me to h which helps alot.i do all the chores around h homean im extra precautious when using.any1who tlls you that users are wastesare compete ignorant.not all cases have scumbag attacted to the title and it psses me off to think that people is labled that way.there are in some casepeole who take it to hide up things others for pain and others who are scumbag.so b4 judging your boyfreind find outwhitch he is b4 jdging and forget aout sinnacle a--holes

I do not think he is a waste. i love him and i want him to get better and get help. i cant trust him around my kids.. not because he will intentionally hurt them, but because i have seen him nod off, and not know what is going on. and that is not safe for the kids. i have small children. i do not judge him at all. in fact.. the opposite. i love him so much and i know he does it because he is in so much pain from losing his kids. but this is why he lost them! its a viscious cycle and i just hope he gets better.

(Beginner) If your life is so stable, why are you involved with a herion addict? Better yet, why are you even asking for advice? Stop kidding yourself! Where is the stability in a drug addict? What are you looking for? Someone to tell you that it's okay and that everything is going to be alright? Let's face it! It's the sex that keeps you coming back for more. You love the sex more than you do your own two children. Sex is just that honey, sex! After the climax, what's left? The same heart ache, pain and the reality that his addiction means more to him than you or your two children. You're a women aren't you? Get thicker skin! I know you know ways of pleasing one's self, be creative and stop playing the victim. Is this the way you want your two little girls to see mommie in a drug and abusive relationship? Yeah, I said abusive! This is something you've neglected to mention. Don't act like he's not abusive! Most drug addicts are abusive in some way, shape, or form. He may not be physically abusive, but what about emotionally, verbally, or even mentally. Is this the kind of boyfiend you want your daughters to bring home someday? Wake up and see life for what it really is, life! All you're doing is making excuses to not succeed! You keep using your boyfriend as an excuse to blame it all on him. What about your obligation to yourself as well as your children. How are they suppose to maintain a healthy relationship when they're able to date, if you keep being such a poor example? Your showing them that it 's okay for a boyfriend to be a drug addict and support his addiction. Don't you realize they are watching your every move and they are processing this in their memory. The're getting older and are going to start to ask questions about your boyfriend's behavior. "Why is he nodding at the table"? "Why is he fighting with mommie"? They are going to remember how mommie allowed her boyfriend to use drugs, so it must be the norm. How is he suppose to protect you and your daughters if an intruder enters your home if he is always intoxicated? You are not showing them that you have the strengh and the common sense that God gave you? Stop being so weak and acting like your such a danzel in distress. Where is your inner strength? I know it's in you. Have you not read any books on women about strength? Any Maya Angelou or Terry McMillian books? How about Iyanla Vansant? These women all wrote about inner strength that we as women possess. You just have to dig real deep down inside and do some soul searching within your mind and ask yourself is this guy really worth it? Do you really need him? Does he work? What is he contributing to this relationship, other than taking money from you to feed his addiction? Don't you realize that he is taking the food off of your table and the food ouf of your children's mouth? I wish we as women would stop letting these guys get away with such unnecessary pain and see how much it inflicts on us. Why are you settleing and selling yourself short? Just to say you have a man! News flash, he's not a man! A man takes care of his responsibilities. A man doesn't bring upon burden and stress into his relationship or home. A man stands on his two feet and does what ever it takes to build a foundation to support his family. And a man doesn't stand back and allow his woman to do it all alone. You need to buy him a copy of Steve Harvey's book on real men. You don't need to have a so-called man, "and I use the term loosely" in your life and your children's life. Not only is he not contributing to the household, but he's being selfish, lazy and very inconsiderate. Honey, you know you can do bad all by yourself. Times are very hard today and you are struggling with two, no, make that three children. It doesn't make any sense to have an able body person in the home who continues to take advantage of you in your vulnerable state of mind. Show this guy you're not going to stand for this longer! If he was a decent fellow and has fallen off of the wagon, give him an ultimatum. If he truely loves and cares for you and your children, he'll check himself into a rehab and make a commitment to get his self together. If not, your going to be going down this long, hard and painful road of disappointment and dispair. It's been two years now, can you really afford to waste another two years struggling with a guy who continues to abuse his health? Cut your losses, and stop looking for a guy to complete or validate you. Remember, your a women, be creative senseable! :-)