My boyfriend is easily offended. How do I avoid hurting him without constantly whatching what I say?

There is no way for anyone to answer this question, with any degree of accuracy, without a full evaluation of your situation. I highly recommend that you and your boyfriend seek a consultation with a counselor or therapist in your community. There are limitless reasons that your boyfriend could seem "easily offended".

This is an early sign of a difficult problem. I recommend you give it a try for a while and move on if you can't avoid the problem. I have been in that situation with more than one person in my life. I am usually told that I am the most polite, respectful person people know. Yet some people are always touchy. You have a hard road ahead of yourself. If you feel it is you, and you want to change, and you can, then go that route. If it is not you or you think it is not, get out while you can. You have years of misery to spare yourself of. I speak from experience. If I could go back, I would have left more than one situation immediately.

Englishmaven, I really appreciate your advice and no, i don't feel like it's my fault. Sometimes it seems as he is totally digging for something to get mad at me about! I'm so lucky if we go a week without arguing and you're right, i should probably get out despite all the amazing things about him. But it's not that easy... we are very serious and i know for a fact he bought me a ring! Did you do anything that you found helped the situation at all?

I have to admit, I have been that boyfriend myself. Sometimes, all it takes is letting the person know a bit more often how much you care for them, and more importantly, helping them realize that if you are with them, then you want to be with them, and that no joking or sarcastic comment changes the fact that you care for them, and that they are making something serious out of nothing but a joke.

Ask him if walking on eggshells is a requirement for your relationship, because it sure sounds like it. I dated someone like that, and it is no walk in the park, so the first thing I would do is tell him to lighten up, and use the eggshell metaphor on him, a lot, whenever he does it, and perhaps he will get the message and grant you more headroom for not being perfect.

Get a boyfriend who isn't a pansy.

Honey I was in your place several years ago. A ring or hurting his feelings should be the least of your worries. Do not go further in this relationship if you already see some bad signs. When I ignored those signs I ended up in a violent relationship that was very hard to get away from. I hope you reconsider this relationship as it certainly is NOT healthy. Good luck to you!

"no two can walk except they agree", may be he dosen't enjoy you jokes.

If your boyfriend is easily offended and you are walking on eggshells over it, then ask yourself if this is what you want in a relationship..which in reality is not a healthy relationship. Having said you are a sarcastic person, maybe you should work on it. It conotates negativity and he must be sensing it. Seems there is a possibility of insecurities on both your parts. How long have you been in this relationship? If it's worth counseling, then counseling on an individual basis would be something to seek out. Either way, outcome of your relationship will turn out to be a sad one if you continue to allow him to put you there.

If your boyfriend becomes upset with you, is it really YOUR problem? It seems that it is HIS issue and not yours. After all you weren't upset with yourself!