My ex-roommate might be obsessed with me...

2 words..... restraining order ! she is obviously not stable! You need to do whatever is necessary to end this before you lose your job!

I would stop taking her calls. She seems like she is very dependant on you and maybe you should just shut her out for awhile. It sounds like she might be running you into the ground and you are lettting her by falling for her vendictive ways. If you moved out and she is still calling you to tell you about the house that you left, maybe she is just not getting the hint. Stop answering her calls and maybe she will get it then.

Be honest. She'll hate it but you need to call her out on her stunts and not take it any more. Tell her she looks disgusting doing the things she does and one day she may find her self with an STD or worst. Let her know exactly how she is making her self look. Tell her that men will never take her seriously and repect bc she does not respect her self. Remember dont say it bitchy be nice about and say it like you are concerned for her well-being. Some what like an intervention make sure you tell her what other people are also saying because than she will thik your a "hater" and the husband she slept with you owe the wife the truth you are also lieing to the wife and defending what happened. If you still want to be her friend but she needs to change let her know and if she gets pissed let her know that is why you never say anything bc she can not accept the truth of what she has become.... be nice and good luck BTW do not speak to her the way i wrote the info be sweet.

Don't listen to these otehr poeple I can tell you what it feels from her side. She needs help she came out of a long relationship alos nd it may be taking her longer to get it over it and she is probably confused so she sleeps with guys like that. She still calls you everyday and acts like your in her life b/c you were her best friend. She wants you to be her friend. She probably misses you.
I don't know I think that pretty much sums it up.

So tell her! It seems to me that you just left and didn' t tell this girl that you were moving out. Did you sign a lease together? If that IS the case, you are obligated to her for the remainder of the lease and her calling to say "WE are out of trash bags" isn't so strange.

Perhaps, without being judgemental and cruel, you can tell her that you have realized that you want different things and that you don't feel as if you can live with her any longer. You have to be up front with her so that she knows where she stands. It seems that she has no idea that you have moved on because, I think, you are afraid to tell her. Perhaps because you can't hurt someone's feelings, perhaps you are afraid of retaliation? If you can't do it by phone, and I can understand if you can't, compose an email that's sympathetic but to the point. Hey, make it, "It's not you, it's me" ala George on Seinfeld. You need space, you are confused, you have problems. Whatever works!

If all this doesn't work and she does become vindictive and vicious then I would not hesitate to call the police on her and tell them you are in fear of retaliation and that she has been acting strangely.

At any rate honesty really is the best policy. Also, you must tell her that you are absolutely forbidden to accept calls at work and that she, by calling you every day, has put you in a very precarious position. If she continues to call then I must agree with dalton, restraining order.

I know how hard it can be to rebuff unwanted attention from either sex. We are trained to be polite and don't want to hurt another's feelings but there are times when, if kindness doesn't work, bluntness is the only way to go.

Find a way to stop her calling you at work. Maybe have someone else answer the phone at work - and tell her that you are busy on a job . Or - if you have to talk to her while you are at work -- tell her that you are busy and cannot talk on the job any more.

Unless you give in and live with her again -- you can't control it if she makes the decision to get vendictive. You will just have to do damage control ... then if it gets bad enough - you may have to talk with the police -- or get a restraining order.

If you can, avoid all calls. If she comes around - don't answer the door. Don't allow her to bother you on the job at all.

First - try avoiding her.

If that does not work - then you will have to go to other major extremes.

Well I have some updates on my situation. First, I told her that I got my annual review (which is true) and that my boss was not happy with the amount of personal calls I was getting in the office. I then told her she is the only person that calls me at work so she needs to cut it out or I could loose my job. So instead of calling me everyday it is about twice a week (for the past 2 weeks) and I either let it go to voicemail or I have someone else in the office answer it and tell her I am not at my desk. I did, however; talk to her a couple days ago and it was creepy. My birthday just happened and i wasn't really in the mood to celebrate. I just moved into my new place and I am getting into a new routine. So she keeps emailing and calling me about my birthday. I tell her that since my birthday was a Tuesday that I definitely would not go out until Friday. Well, when Tuesday came one of my friends asked me to go out and have a beer after work. So I go and have a beer with her and then we decide to go get some dinner too. I suggest a resteraunt that one of my friends owns. We go there and 3 of my other friends are there to have dinner and beer. So we all hang out eat and drink, the owner happens to come in and knows its my birthday. He comped all of our meals, gave us free beer and went next door to a resteraunt that sells liquor and came back and made us carbombs. It was a great birthday, yet totally unexpected. So the next day I am at work and my ex-roommate calls me. I answered and she starts giving me the third degree. She asks me what I did for my birthday. I start off saying "oh nothing much went out for dinner......." She then tells me that she knows exactly what I did last night and names off both the places I went to. Then she said something like "I'm sorry I missed that" and then tells me she has to go and hangs up the phone on me. I talked to my friends that I had hung out with that night and they all swear they had not talked to her. So I try to forget about it because it honestly creeped me out. On Friday I chekced my facebook page and she had written a message on it that morning saying that she baked a cake and could not wait to go out tonight (holy split personallities Batman!). She comes out Friday night and I spent the minimal amount of time with her. There were so many people that came out that it was easy for me to mingal with other people and keep my distance. I honestly feel the reason she was so into my birthday to begin with is for attention. I think she has been terribly lonely with out me or my friends. People that she thought were her friends don't come by her house anymore, becuase they were not coming by to see her in the first place. One of the many things that has damages our friendship was the fact that I felt like she was trying to take over my life, my personality, my friends, my interest. Everything I did she had to find a way to do it too, but on a much larger scale. I actually have a great example of this. I like to sew clothes and screen print shirts. I have a friend that likes to do the same. We use to get together every Thursday and cook dinner and do some arts and crafts. Well my roommate wanted in, even though she doesn't know how to use a sewing machine and also does not have a sewing machine. Well she rally's all of our combined friends into having a craft night at our house on Thursdays. So my Thursday night fun night turned into a trainwreck. People would just show up to our house on Thursday. Friends, friends of friends, people who we did not know and it became more of a social drinking thing than a craft night. It really pissed me off, so I started going over to a friends house on Thursdays and when I would get home there would be like 15 people that I did not know ( trendy scenesters) sitting around smoking cigarrettes and drinking, there was not even a place for me to sit in my own living room. So that is just one of many examples I can provide. Avoiding her is very hard, considering we run in some of the same circles. I have friends that I don't want to loose and she knows that and she keeps tabs on them, in order to keep tabs on me. Where ever I go out too, she just happens to show up there too. Other than freak me out, she hasn't really done anything that is restraining order worthy. I am too scared that she might snap if I am blunt with her and tell her I don't want anything to do with her, but it is also impossible for me to avoid her completely........I am stuck in a very uncomfortable situation.

Sounds like to me that you need to march down to the courthouse and file a restraining order. She sounds desperate and psycho. Desperate people do psycho things. You can never be to careful with these types of people. When the police deliver the restraining order, that should be enough to let her know that you no longer want anything to do with her. This method is clean and consise. You won't have to deal with her at all. An added bonus is that if she violates the order, she is taught an even bigger lesson by going to jail!