Couples swapping spouses

From what you are describing it sounds like a swinger lifestyle. It's okay not to be okay with this. It may not ben your thing. Not all fantasies are meant to be explored.

I would advise to have a heart to heart with your wife and explain that although you thought you would enjoy it, it has made you uneasy and uncomfortable. Then you can figure out together if going back to just being monogamous would be best option for your marriage.

Was this supposed to be an asset to your love life? If so, it may not be the best choice and it seems like your realizing this. When you get married you promise to stay faithful. This is in a way not being faithful even when your wife knows about it. Also, if your mind is telling you it probably isnt a good idea and your having second thoughts or regrets, then i would defaintly suggest stopping this soon. It wont be a good asset to your marriage, and it wont be a good flare at all for your love life. I know it sounds exciting and all, and i get that but when your married...this kind of thing seems somewhat juvenile.


Like skoolie said, "Not all fantasies are meant to be explored."

Maybe you should find other ways to spice things up in the bedroom... YOU & YOUR WIFE only, k? This could make your marriage stronger.

Swapping, in all aspects of life? living together, being together, having sex together?

if the answer is yes to all the above, then i agree with skoolie. the swinger lifestyle is different and it isn't for everyone. if you are having second thoughts about it, you do need to have a heart to heart with her and soon.

when people aren't ok with this lifestyle, it can do damage to the marriage if not put into the proper context.

you might want to rethink this idea if you can still stop it from happening.

This is a hard one to get over but you do need to tell your wife how you feel about swapping and be honest with her about it.But their is one thing you shouldn't do and that is to continue doing this to please your wife because it will only leave you feeling ashame of yourself and not trusting her.It is alright to explore your fantasy but if at any time you feel it isn't for you than you need to stop it.

The fact that you are uncomfortable with "swapping" means you had a normal Christian type upbringing and can't get over the inherent fact that you believe it's wrong. It is also somewhat dangerous because you can't possibly know the health histories of the couples you interact with sexually. There is also some subconscious part of you that is jealous of another man making it with your wife. Since "swapping" is still considered fringe behavior, you are not wrong for feeling the way you do, you're probably right and should follow your intuition. You've had your fantasy, no go back to being totally devoted to your wife the way you should be. Most couples who engage in continued "swapping" eventually break up because they discover new partners they like better than the one they have.

Swapping is not for everyone. Fantasies are just that & many times dont turn out as good as we think. Dont let anyone decide for u. If its not for u there is nothing wrong with that.