Divorce based off flirting text messages

That seems a little extreme. Maybe first you could try talking to her to see what she feels like she's missing in her relationship with you - there must be something she feels like she had to go elsewhere to get. Make sure she understands that you're not okay with the flirtatious text messages, and see if there's anything you can do to make her more content with what you guys already have together. Since she wasn't actually cheating, I'm sure you guys can work through it. But do keep an eye out for suspicious behavior until you begin to trust her again.

Divorce is a break of a covenant. Does this action, texting, warrant such an action?

As "marrieds" we need to be "aware" of any relationship with the opposite sex. Friends, workplace, affiliations, churches. Boundaries are in place, or should be, when we are married. Our feelings, emotions, intimacies (sexual and emotional) belong only to our spouse. Even in the case of best friends which are then usually same-sex friends, there are details of our lives that should remain in the spousal relationship only.

As such, when we enter into male/female relationship we need to be aware of our boundaries and not cross them. Infidelity is usually not the root problem in marriage, unless there are sexual addiction issues, perhaps. Infidelity, some would argue, begins with just thoughts of another. Texting, creating intimacy with an opposite sex friend, fringes on those boundaries

I would say that it is up to you and your spouse to decide if these texting relationships are fringing upon your boundaries. Or are they innocent. If they are not, then this texting in general is an obvious outward sign of other problems within the marriage, that is manifesting itself in this way.

So, figure out what is bugging you both. Counseling would help sort out the details with a neutral third party. But, not all counselors are for every person. Interview yours and make sure you are both in agreement with the counselor and their viewpoints and that you both feel "safe" to share and open up in that environment.

Overall, you don't seem to yet have enough info to make a divorce decision or not. Good luck and blessings to you both!

Well, she still denies everything. And I have been finding out myself many of the things she tells me in regards to the messages are lies. And her mom has got involved too much. I have went to talk to her for to tell me the truth and her mom kept her away from me.

The person that she was exchanging messages with was a guy she met at the gym (works there). And I have seen this person and yet her mom knew about this all because she would go to the gym with her everyday. and the day i went to have her explain the truth to me her mom kept her away and took her to the gym where that guy was. I went there and she didnt have to say. I dont want to go into details of my actions in the gym but I did make a scene because the guy was running away from me. it has been three days and she still hasnt called me.

It sounds like your problem is much deeper than text messages. If the discovery of the text messages has opened a Pandora's Box of trust issues for you guys, then its going to continue to build and create a stressful situation for you both. If you choose to divorce her, I don't believe it would be unfounded, but it would not be on the basis of flirtatious text messages. It would be so many things at this point: infidelity, lack of of communication... irreconcilable differences.