My Bisexual Boyfriend is a Sexaholic

Ok, im a guy and im Bi. Im 27. I met my boyfriend who is very closeted eight months ago and he is 21 and very nice and intelligent but immature.

I came out of the closet for him and I changed my entire life. He has made almost no changes for me.

In the beginning he would show me an enormous amout of affection and he would take the bus to see me everyday...he would bring me presents, he would kiss me all the time ( without me asking him) he would want to spend the nite at my house.... now he is becomming more distant and he wont kiss me or hug me unless I beg him...?

He always telles me he is hot or tired.

He hates doing everything I want to do... Movies, Roadtrips,sports,malls,bowing,beaches,casinos,boat tours...etc And when I beg him to go with me he acts miserable the entire time and it ruins my time.

He tells me that he wants to go to a bathhouse...he wants us to have threesomes all the time because hes 'horny and young' so I have to get dragged to a bathouse and have sex with him and these strangers....I am so frustrated because I dont want to do it....but he says "thats what interests me" ok.....he is a sexaholic and a nympho.... I dont call it equal when I want to go to a movie and he doesnt....and he wants to go to a bathhouse and I dont....he makes the comparason....how can he compare a bathouse and a movie theatre? WTF

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Answer 1 / 3 - Submitted 144 days ago...

fairytale37

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Woah. That's a long story. In your story, it sounds like he likes doing what HE likes doing, but not really interested in what you do. So he probably tries to convince you to like the bathouse idea so he can do it since he likes it and you don't.

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diwaid

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Sounds like to me that u are a way better then you think you are. you should feel like u deserve to have someone that wants to go do things with you and spend time with u. i cant say that things were not great for you guys at first but now it sounds like the lust and all intrest is gone.. YOUR NOT A SEXT TOY. your a person. he cant just have u for one thing he has to enjoy you for the whole thing. your not being fair to yourself by not finding someone who wants to spend all there time with you. try a new man. find someone that treats u like u should be treated

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Answer 3 / 3 - Submitted 142 days ago...

Radio-One

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You are an extremely GOOD LOOKING MAN !
I know you have heard this before-There are more fish in the sea OR shall I rephrase :
There are many more worms around!
Personally I think you deserve much better treatment. With your BF seemingly the new has worn off and I agree with you he does appear immature AND as well very self centered!
If I were you I would go along with his most current schedule of less infrequent sleep overs and visits- Completely discourage the all together. Now if he really cares or at all ever cared with deep feelings for you he will figure out quickly (after you aren't--- so to speak calling & chasing him).
Then he will come around to his senses or if he doesn't you will know that there was nothing there- with the exception being on your side.
The Bathhouse thing is something I went through with with an EX of mine- I wanted to go basically because I didn't want to have solosex with him- so I figured this was a way to get down someone else's pants and take the focus off of him. Could this be his motive?

Movies, Road-trips, Sports, Malls, Bowling, Beaches, Casinos, Boat-Tours -ALL- sounds like a man of all men that would definitely win my heart over with lots of genuine love and respect.

Again, this is only my personal opinion-Ditch Him!

The right guy will find YOU.

From my experience when one is looking one will only attract a ton of losers!
When you are not somewhat actively looking - almost always the right guy comes along and approaches you and the chemistry is right.

TRY THAT OUT!

GREAT LUCK TO YOU MAN!
Ken

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Comment 1 / 4 - Submitted 142 days ago...

lukamagnotta

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Your a smart guy, thanks so much. I really appreciate the time you took to answer me.

Kind Regards
Luka Magnotta

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Radio-One

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You are very welcome!
If you want to chat sometimes I am at
KenKennedy1972@yahoo.com
Since I saw your pic--- I have had Luka on the Brain!
Really write if you desire- I would love to talk to you more!
Respectfully,
Ken

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Comment 3 / 4 - Submitted 93 days ago...

Clandestine1

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To be honest with you, he has self esteem problems. Many gay guys/men go through this. They sleep around A LOT because there is a constant need to feel attractive or wanted. They will tell you and probably themselves that is is just hormonal... and maybe half is... but it gets to a point where you realize it is a lot more than that.

Also, most of the websites gay guys use to chat or hookup on have a ton of porn ads. These ads feature the hottest guys ever made (lol) and you see them all night on your computer... well it doesnt take a rocket scientist to see that men in general are very visual. Gay men are no exception. Once you see that all day and night, you want to go hookup more and more.

I dont mean to be rude, but he is too young! Your still very young at 27, but a guy that is 21 is destined to go wild, gay or straight and play the field. Dont think something is wrong with you, because you are just fine... dont think he doesnt love you because I am sure he does, it is just his age and the constant need to feel loved/wanted by another man.

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