How do i get my ex girl to come back to me

Getting an ex back in a situation like that is hard.

The best thing you can do, is let her be, get your act together. Work on all the things that have been going wrong in your life. Get your license back (if you can), get a new job, work through the depression. You shouldn't have to beg her to be with you.

Basically, you need to be the guy that she wanted you to be all along. She will either notice you, and make the effort then, or else you'll meet someone new.

I know you are in alot of pain, but you can work through it.

A book I would recommend that is quite good is

Way of the superior man - by David Deita.

From the female side (been there done that) - leave her alone before she gets a restraining order. "If you love something let it go... If it comes back to you it is meant to be".

I have to agree with mma_mom 100%

I agree with mma_mom! Trying to force something unnaturally will only hurt everyone.

Just give her time like 6 months if she was meant for you she will come back
and if she does not ,know that it was not meant and move on.

You cant.
Me and my ex were together about a year and a half. He did the same things to me as you did to your girlfriend. It makes her feel unwanted, unloved, and taken advantage of. I loved him but i was tired of never having someone to come home to because he was gone and i had no idea why and i was tired of him pushing me away because he had to much stress. We are there to help you dont push us away. Somethings you just cant fix. I broke up with him and i have moved on. He cant fix what he did to me. It hurts really bad. If this was a recent problem (you pushing her away) she probably saw what was coming and ran (smart girl), but if this went on for a while then she needed to get away. You didnt see what you had infront of you. It was really YOUR mistake but you cant make it better. My advice? Leave her one good bye message about how much you love her and how you realize what you did and that your sorry and let her go. If yall are meant to be Love will find a way. I promise.