In Love With A Husband, Only He's Not Mine...

Of course it is "perfect" you don't have to live with him, pick up his dirty underwear, or decide on day to day financial decisions etc... There is no arguing about who picks up the kids, when and who goes to the grocery store, what's for dinner tonight. If you get ill or vice versa you don't have to decide where the kids are going, do we make a will now or later, and on and on. Marriage is a JOB as well as a relationship that two people have to work at every day and when children are involved it is that much more sensitive. If he is not sure about his love for you than that says a lot. Chances are you have been a diversion from his everyday stresses of life. I would get out while you can and fine a single man worth your time.

I guess you need to figure out what he's telling his wife. Is it possible he's telling her the same things he's telling you? Tough situation, but I know you two trust each other. I just wonder about his commitment.

He sure sounds like a wonderful man to me too, I have always wanted a man who lies & cheats!
What happens if he leaves his wife for you & he is an hour late getting home from work? Are you really going to buy into the traffic jam story?
Dump him now, do not let him dump you or you will only be making his ego even bigger.

Get rid of him, he's cheating on his WIFE with you, he is dishonest, and messing with both you and his wife, if he's doing it to her, he'll do it to you, and he won't leave her for you or admit he loves you after 3 years....he's just having fun, don't you feel guilty about his wife? I know lust is easy to give into sometimes, but homewreckers and cheaters are horrible.

They almost never leave. Have you ever been cheated on? If you haven't, you will, if the two of you get together.

Once a Cheater Always A Cheater. Once A Beater Always A Beater. They Only Change When They WANT To Change. Almost Never Change Though. It Will Happen To You Too. Please Get Smart.

He is meeting some need by having an affair with you for this long. unless he is going to leave his wife, you deserve better. someone you don't have to sneak around to be with.

besides, do you really want to start a relationship that started as a lie?

I hate to bring it up, but if he cheats on his wife now, then he will do the same to you. Cheating is the ability in your mind to justify infidelity over the vowes you make. Find a new one who is unattached - it's a NEW YEAR and you can have a clean slate if you chose. It can only get worse - so severe ties and find someone who will make you their one and only because you deserve it!

Wow do i feel for you...what a terrible situation you're in...first of all, like everyone says, if he cheats on his wife, he will cheat on you...its just the law of the land..and since he has a wife its obvious he is telling her all kinds of lies to have time with you..now is that the kind of man you want to be in love with? he has kids, thats just terrible for them..i think you should dump him now to save yourself and maybe your future children from having a dad leave them for another woman..this is just not a good place to put yourself in...you deserve to have an honest man, who will love you and only you...dont you want that? i could never have a man who has another woman on the side, it immediately makes him a liar..no woman wants a liar for a man do they?