Can't Decide

I would stay away from th bestfriend because if it don't work out your losing a boyfriend in a friendship i would give your x a second chance because like the saying let him go in if he come back it was meant to be but it up to you do what you want if it don't work out with neither one then there more fish in the sea

There is a third option - and that is to do nothing about your current predicament. Your ex is an ex for a reason, and your best friend already has a girlfriend, and I doubt you want to get into the middle of that.

Take some time off from the whole relationship business, and consider what's really right for you. It might be best for you to stay single until someone you really want to spend your life with comes along.

I had a situation like this in high school, I had a boyfriend like your ex, he seemed perfect and we got along great, but something just made me feel like we weren't right together and I broke up with him. A few months down the road I opted to get back with him, thinking this time I wouldn't take him for granted. Didn't happen. If you're hearts not in it - you can't force it to be, and its not going to be any different the second time around.

As for your best friend with a girlfriend - I had this situation later too! Do not wait for him. Let him have his time with his girlfriend, and you should see other people too. The great thing about this situation is because you are best friends, you won't lose touch. You'll still be friends and in contact with one another, and when the time is right, you will end up together. I didn't start dating my best friend until college - but I'm marrying him next month!

Good luck!

These are really good answers, but I'm waiting for more great advise. See, I can't decide who to love. It's really hard for me to choose, you all have good points, but it still is hard. I mean, I shouldn't wait for him to break up with her, I don't even think they'll break up when they're in college.

My your last comment, sounds like you just need to wait and see what happens, follow you heart! Following your heart could mean that you have to wait longer for results, but it will pay off! It will be worth it in the end!
If you are waiting around for your best friends current relationship to end, you are waiting, MAYBE for the wrong thing...
I have to tell you from experience, let your best friend stay where he is in your heart... your BEST FRIEND! So many times peop.le start dating their best friend and in the end they are nothing. This sounds like a friendship that you might want to keep a friendship!
I'd say if your ex treated you good and you were happy, give him a call.

Trust me, if you were meant to be with the friend, you will be in the end. For now he is involved with someone else, go back to your ex if it was a good thing and see what happens.
Keep us posted!
Good luck to you!
-Lissa

Okay, some of you mentioned the second time with your ex is better. . .well. . .see. . .okay, I'll spill. I broke up with him once, then got back together. Then now I broke up, and I'm not sure. . .thanks Lissa! That cheers me up! :) I'll wait for someone to comment about the third time with your ex, and then I'll really listen to my heart.

I have never had a third time with an ex, I've always felt like if it didn't work the second time, we gave it our best effort but it just wasn't going to work. But I have a friend who is on her third time with a guy...and she's miserable. She knows its not working but she feels like she's invested so much time into the relationship that she can't just let it go now. Don't let yourself miss out on other opportunities because you feel like you have to chose between the two, there are other great guys out there just waiting to meet you! If you want to give him a third try - then you should. But don't hesitate to be honest with yourself and break it off as soon as you realize nothing has changed.

It sounds like the problem is you. By your own admission, you have a sweet and caring guy who seems like the perfect boyfriend. I don't detect any problems with the relationship (although you've already proven that you withhold critical information). So, what are you holding out for? Is this other guy so much more awesome that you're actually willing to wait for him to MAYBE break up with his current girlfriend? In the meantime, you're dangling carrots out in front of the -- for the time being -- ex-boyfriend, who by the way should get a medal for patience. If, in fact, things are and always were good between you and your ex, then you better get him back before he becomes sweet, caring and perfect for someone else and you're left alone wondering what happened. Sorry, it needed to be said...

It's okay. You all make perfect sense. See this is the story of me and my ex:
At first I hated him. He wasn't the nicest guy to be with girls, and then he started to become nicer. He voted for me in the SCA while he was campaigning against me! So I decided I liked him. We became good friends, and I started to take notes if he liked me or what. His mom happened to be a teacher in the same grade level, and I was glad I didn't have her. I later asked him out, he sorta rejected but we went out anyway. We didn't talk much until like a 3 months later. Our parents didn't know. Then. . .on April's Fools Day, a note was caught by a teacher, given to his mom then of course. . .trouble. I never told my parents. . .but anyway, he was tacky with my twin sister and my friends. And it really bothered them, so it bothered me some too. I told him to quit it out, he didn't. So I broke up with him. Then, later I felt sorry and wanted him back so I did. Then. . .like three weeks ago I broke up with him.

The End of that. So. . .if he was a bit tacky, but he said he cared for me, would he still be the right guy?

If u really like ur best friend i say stay away from him if u dont want to lose that relationship. it hapens to almost every relationship when u have a bestfriend and go out and yall break up your most likely not gonna talk again. think about what u really want .. your ex sounds nice try it again with him.. maybe some single time will do good .. you dont always have to be out looking for love. let it come to you.. goodluck!