How can you stop loving someone?

You can't just decide to stop loving some one; it doesn't work that way.
You just have to move on. It's hard, trust me, it is. Your baby will help to keep your mind off of him, which is what you need. Just try to stay focused on your child and not on him and the pain will, eventually, start to fade away. Time heals all wounds.

Yes, tough stuff these days. It was hard for me to do that. . .sort of too. I mean, I loved my boyfriend, deeply but somewhere in my heart, it was saying, "Stop! Stop! You cannot be with him!", but sorry, no subject involved in that. So anyway, if you know if you truly love him, than love him. But if he made you mad, maybe it's time for you to move on without him. If he's not helping you, then you need someone else who actually cares and will help. But the main thing is: do you truly, deeply love him? If you do, then you will need to talk with him. If you do not, pack your bags and find someone else.

I am so sorry you are in this difficult position. You may never stop loving this person. He is the father of your child and you will always have a connection to him because of that.The key is to forgive him for what he has done and this is not something that has to be done is a dramatic, drawn out fashion. In fact, you dont even have to say it to him. Just say to yourself, " (insert his name), I forgive you for breaking my heart and causing me pain." The act of forgiveness is not for him, but for you so that you can get past this situation to love again. A man who would walk away from his child is too immature to deal with such an adult responsibility and does not deserve to have the affections of a mature woman. It will hurt, but eventually the pain will lessen. I wish you and your baby the best of luck.

You shouldn't stop loving him. The reason why you hate him so much is because you love him and you tell yourself to hate him because of what he did and you can't because you deeply love him. All you are doing is hurting yourself. Tell yourself it's okay to love him. You don't hate him you hate what he did. You are in control of the situation now. If you want a normal happy life with him again you would have to tell him you forgive him and never talk about again. On the other hand you will only be miserable refreshing your mind everytime about the incident. I went through my pregnancy on my own and with no one's help. God helped me so I am happy that I have a healthy baby. I think that deep down I am mad that he wasn't there then but now he is . If I were to think about this all the time we would be fighting too.

Ifyou have a sister and this happened to her, what advice would you give her. I am sure you would tell her to go back to him when he is ready and have another baby with him. He will be back because narcist alway do .Because this is what they are about. And don'y ever forget this. Good luck, i will be praying for you and your child

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your never gonna not love him but don't stop loving him he's the father of your child you will never stop loving him but don't stop loving him to make your self start hating him. Just think about it he's not mature an your grown you have a baby your baby should be the one to get your mind off of him or try dating some one else some time's it's the people you date that can make you get over youe ex trouble's im telling you it work's

I was in the same situation. I have a child with someone who was my best friend and then lifelong love....or so I thought. One of the reasons you still love him is due to the fact that you do have his child. This love will never go away because you have a child and if you're like me, you look at the baby every day and it reminds you of what you once had. But, my son is almost 2 yrs old and after having his dad leave me when I was pregnant also, I realized he's not the person I thought he was. Keep the love in your heart cuz you will have to explain to your child about his father although he's not there. As mom's we get the hard jobs! Just because you have love for him, doesn't actually mean you're still in love with him. Take it day by day and be thankful for what he did give you and what you had together. As time goes by, the deep feelings will go away. You all shared something special and now you have the best end of the deal there with you. Live your life for you and your child and the rest will fall into place.

Time will help you heal in the meantime go to the OCSE and family court and file a petition for child support. Don't worry about him because he damn sure aint worried about you and the baby. Love yourself and do what is right. show him you love yourself and he may come back. right now you are allowing him to treat you like trash and not even take care of his child. NO GOOD

In time it will be easier for you to deal with him, right now you are still hurt so naturally you are having a hard time but in time you will adjust! Just take it easy!
Good luck.

You said it move on with your life guys still ike a girl even with a baby you just need to go out more have a little fun if your stuck at home you will always have him in your mind .. so just go out do different things and you will realize he isnt the only one you could love.... and if you have things of him get rid of it old letters old pictures bears .. clothes get rid of it .. it will only remind you of him even more