Well its Over, My Wife has cheated with my Boss. I really want to hurt her. What Should I do?

OMG I feel so bad for you. You need to get help from family, Friends, or a doctor. I know its going to hurt worst by putting it out there like that, but it will be a release you need so that you won't hurt anyone and make your life even worst by going to jail by the heat of the moment reaction.

If you've lost your dignity, its only because you've allowed it to be taken from you.

Move on, move on, move on...it's your wife that lost out on a husband, and a boss that lost out on a good employee. Hold your head up high, and be proud that it wasn't a decision that you made.

Divorce the wife, get a new job. Remember people that prosper from bad deeds only do so temporarily.

I think the first thing that you need to do is sit up high in your chair and take a deep breathe.
Your wife violated you in a way that is hard for anyone to deal with, but we are fully able to pull through even worse things than this. It is going to take you a lot of time and effort, not to mention PATIENCE to get through this one, but I know you can do it.
Whether you want to work on it with your wife, in a way that you both can get over it and move on together or apart, you should start with working on moving past this WITH your wife. What you need is understanding. It will not come easy. Ask her if she is willing to talk to you about it. I do not mean ask her for details, what I mean is, tell her that you need to know where her head was at. Was there something wrong with your marriage, was there something wrong with you and your relationship? Ask her if she can talk to you about her choices and let her know that you are willing to LISTEN! Listen to her without judging her, listen to her without defending yourself if she begins to tell you her doubts or issues with you or the relationship that you and her have. You really need to listen to her without critisizing her for ANYTHING! Let yourself be able to understand her. Then ask her for her ears in hearing you out and then tell her how her choice made you feel. Don't make her feel cornered, make the conversation as comfortable as you can for you AND for her!
Then talk together about what steps you each want to take and WHY you want to take those steps. If she tells you that she is over him and wants to work on you and her, ask her why. Not sarcasticly, sincerely. And then tell her what you wish to do and why. Or you tell her first, then ask her. Either way, you both at some point, need to get into each others head and literally get to the bottom of it.
Remember that everyone has down moments in their lives and it only makes us MUCH stronger people! Just keep thinking positive about yourself and you will get through it.
As for the boss, I would cut him out of my life for good. Go find yourself a better job where you have respect given and received.
Please let us know if you need anything more. Keep us posted...
-Lissa

From a therapeutic point of view, do the following: For the next month, write down every mean and nasty comment that you've ever wanted to say to your boss or your soon-to-be ex-wife. Keep them in separate folders, at the top of a bookshelf or the refrigerator. Bring them down and add to them only when you have something new to say. At the end of the month, take everything you've written down and go to a noisy place (the beach, next to a freeway or airport) at a time and place where you can be alone for the most part. Read everything out loud with all of the anger and fury you felt when you wrote them. Yell, scream, cry, stomp your feet, kick dirt, exhaust yourself. When you're done, set these papers on fire -- if it's safe to do so -- and as they become a pile of ash, pee on them. Trust me, this works.

With so much anger and hurt that you are feeling, I would remove myself from the environment because I don't think it would be wise for your wife and/or boss to be near you-... you need time to cool off and talk/vent with a friend/family member you trust. She did you very wrong. I had once been put in a situation where I felt like I could have hurt with my glare and it felt powerful... but I knew that I could not unleash because my thinking was fuzzy and I was in rage and hurt and I could be put in a predicament- or worse- in jail... and the only one suffering in the party was me. I'm not going to lie and say 'this too shall pass' in a day or week but don't feel that you are not a man just because she did this to you... She did not keep her vows.

All good suggestions for sure, but right now you dont want to hear what you should do you, want to hear that the way your feeling is valid. im here to tell you, YOU ARE RIGHT! the woman you promised to love for the rest of your life betrayed you in the worst way. you gave your heart and soul to try to make a woman happy only to have it thrown in your face. the trust you had, the sharing of feelings( not an easy thing for men in any situation) mean nothing to her because of her actions. she totaly F!@ed you over not only taking your pride but your job as well. your embarrassed because by now your colluiges at work probably know. i dont envy the headach you will feel from the anger or the weight you will loose from the stress. all i can say is i feel for you. your anger must be controlled however. this will only give her validation for her actions. you know she is wrong, why give her justification for action. right now, the best thing to do is run it out,, excersise till you drop to the floor and there are no more tears left in your eyes. this causes a "runners high" seritonin will release in your brain and you will feel better. exhausted but better. you will be able to think a little more clear when you cant spend energy on anger and a funny things will happen. you step away from the situation a little and you may actualy see the signs have been there for many months. a clear head will help you decide if she is worth fighting for or just cutting bait and moving on. You cant make her do anything she doesnt want to do so its a waste of time trying. it will piss you off even more. you can only control you. believe that and things will be a little easier. Just remember. you are not the first one to have this happen too. seek out others who have been there. it makes it easier. it did for me.

WTF.I can't believe she got in bed with your boss? Trifiling. I have got to say I don't know what I would do in this type of situation, But I have one idea of what I would do. I would leave town for a while. I am not suggesting divorce but in my case this would constitute a guranteed divorce. But I would wait till you calm down before you make any action just to make sure your thinking clearly.

Did you have any kids with this woman? If not I would cut my ties with her as soon as possible then I would fire back by calling a lawyer to recoup some of that pride. Adultery, is illigal and since she has made a grave mistake of sleeping with the wrong person, you can win any financial assets both of you posses.

I agree with the rest -- Never hold your head down, this is the moment you have been waiting for, as you are being tested and you need to come out as GOLD. Get up and stand up on your own two feet and move out SOLDIER.

From a pure revenge point of view, if you have any concrete proof, take it to all of her family and close friends. Likewise with your boss. But don't leave any physical proof behind. If it gets distributed, you could be charged with slander, or worse.

I know it hurts more then anything in this world but don't do nothing your regret you will be just trowning your life away in that might be what she wants you to .there are more fish in the sea find someone who love you for you in then i would find the guy out in kick his ass just what i'll do but anyways your get back on your feet in know time in just think this could be the starting point of the life you always wanted

Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. If I were you, I wouldn't have expected it, either. Just because it happens to others, doesn't mean it can't happen to you. Although, your wife was being rude, I don't think you should acknowledge her. I mean, don't get back at her. You'll get yourself in a bigger situation for you to handle. If I were you, I'd focus trying to get a job and settle a divorce with your wife, because obviously, I don't think you'd want to be with her after she cheated on you. You can probably move out of your house or whatever, if she hasn't. Just start a new life. I'm sure you'd feel some better. I hope you do well, and I hope you find a job and get a divorce settled with her. I wish you to do well!