My husband is incarcerated and he keeps thinking crazy things like I am cheating or that I want to be with my X

Well it sounds as though your husband has a right to think that way. If he was your boyfriend I would say forget it. He is your husband and if you are being faithful to him, you need to keep reassuring him that you are not cheating on him. Write him letters at least twice a week. If you have a job, talk to him about your days at work. That may help. But I really believe that once he is out of jail, he will go back to seeing other women. Prepare yourself. Be faithful to him. You be the good guy this time. You are 40 yrs old, married 4 times. You do not need to be married or have a man to be complete or happy. There are so many things you can do without being married or having a man. Singleness is a blessing just like marriage. If you find yourself single again, embrace it. Wait a few years before getting married again. You will have matured more.

Unbelievable. You start off with him cheating with his ex, then you go and do the grudge thing with your ex, then you call him and another woman answers the phone, then you break up but he wants to get back together but he's been seeing other women during this time . . . this is exhausting just to read it. You're meant for each other but I don't know if that's such a good thing. I understand that you're tired of remarrying and you really want this one to work, but your husband has some obvious infidelity issues and for some reason you seem to tolerate it. I don't think I've ever given this kind of advice before, but if you're so hell-bent on keeping this marriage together, I think you should consider an open relationship. Your husband isn't likely to change his philandering habits and if he's going to continually accuse you of doing the same, you might as well go through with it or at least openly allow him to do it. He knows that you know what's going on, he continues to do it anyway, and you continue to hang on to him. You should have an arrangement where he gets his play time at specific times with a handpicked pre-screened select few; this way you'll know that he's not bringing home a disease that will ultimately infect and possibly kill you as well, because right now that risk is very real. It's pretty much an out-of-control situation already, at least you can attempt to exert some small measure of control over it. Good luck, you're going to need it.

Just because my husband and I have made mistakes in our lives does not mean that we are not meant to be. I appreciate your answer and my heart was leading me this way anyway. The only thing that I do not agree with is if I see him with his X not to confront him? I am not quite clear on that part. It's not him that I do not trust it is his X. I don't listen to negative suggestions. I pray on everything especially concerning my marriage. I've been married before but this is the first real time that I am married, deeply in love and want and need things to work. I was never taught anything about relationships growing up I had to fall my way through things until now. My husband has been patient with me as I have been with him and we teach each other what we know. We both want our marriage to be way more than any other relationship we have ever had! Some people probably think we are crazy for being married after all that we have been through but judge not lest ye be judged!