Extenuating circumstances, such as what you and/or your husband do for a living or how financially stable you are can play a role in your husband's hesitation about having a third child. I'm alomst 30 and my father, aged 49, has a 3 year old child . If anything, having children when we are a little older is a benefit because wehave the wisdom of precious experiences to guide us. As to whether or not it will tear your marriage apart, it can, but it doesn't have to. Begin an open, honest dialogue with your husband, not when you are stressed and fighting, but when you are both calm and remember how much you love each other. Explain to him that this new child is a blessing, as all children are, and that even though it may be a little difficult, you can make it together,
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Together 9 years married 8 months now baby 3 on the way
So my husband and I have been together 9 years we have a 7 year old girl and 5 year old boy and found out that now we will have a 3rd, he says he doesnt want another baby and refuses to talk about the new baby, its almost like he is in denial, then ever so offten we will talk and he will say stuff like we need to get a bigger suv so we have room for the new baby or which one of the kids will share a room with the baby, my question is he thinks he is too old he just turned 30, will he come around or is this going to tear our marriage apart
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Thanks your right and yes we are financially stable we own a buissnes and I also work a very good job, I think he is worried im going to want to quit!!! but I dont I love working!!! so its not money I think its his age he is so worried about.
So glad I could offer you some insight. Good luck to you all!
I am sure he will come around. You've got 2 older kids and he will see that the new one will fit in with the family as if he/she was there all along. Some Men (my husband acted the same way as yours BOTH times!) tend to be worried about it most at first, but who can resist a little baby? His instincts will kick in, and I am sure you guys have a pretty decent relationship, so it'll be all good. Good luck and congratulations!
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Good morning,
I hope you are feeling better emotionally and physically by now. Men tend to for obvious reasons want to feel absolutely confident in their manhood and ability to provide for their families. So given your youngest being 5 years old it is some what undertandable his stress and of course to make matters worse not all men feel comfortable expressing their vulnerable sides. As for the pregnancy causing marriage problems as long as both parties are willing and trying to communicate with each other it is with out a doubt you two will work it out. Fear brings out the worse in us sometimes, but always brings every thing to the light.
God Bless and Congratulations.
Mary
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