Why doesnt he want to get married?

At 46, I would believe his clock has stopped working. Consider your options, and the age difference. There is a world of difference among the two of you. You might not feel it now, yet, our personalities, wants and needs chage at different stages of our lives. It's been 3 years, so obviously he isn't interested in marriage. Sow your oats and find someone closer to your age that has the same wants and needs as yours.

Apparently, he likes things the way they are now. He has no legal commitments to you. He gets to "drive the car" without having to pay for gas. How convenient. If it's important to you and he's aware of that, then it should be important to him as well. Are you living together? If not, you need to ask yourself why. Maybe he's already married and enjoying the fact that he's got someone 17 years his junior on the side. Unless you feel deep down that he's some kind of truly awesome guy, then you need to give him a wake up call and jolt him out of his comfort zone. Whether or not his clock is ticking, yours is and he doesn't seem to care about that. Tell him the party's over and if he still doesn't respond, then move on to someone who is more in tune with your needs.There are plenty of other worthy, commitment-minded older guys who would love to be in his position, the difference being that they would be willing to take the dive with you.

I totally agree with Rhodium and wouldn't even ATTEMPT to top that answer. Well done R!

What everyone is telling you is the truth. I married a man who was 14 years older than I at 19,it beame a controling miserable marriage. He had already done everthing he wanted to do and didn't want me to do anything and kept a tab on me at all times. But it was fine for him to do what he wanted when he wanted. I felt like a caged bird for years.

First things first....Would this be his first marriage? Usually if the answer is yes, then there is something wrong with him emotionally....Marriage is a committment. The Ultimate committment...If he is scared of committing, then you are wasting your time.....If the answer is no, then there again are some deep emotionall issues that he is dealing with...You must ask yourself.." Do I deserve to have to wait while dealing with his issues at the same time?" You can't save the world. If you are only 26, you are still a baby.....You have so many fish to fry. Maybe it is time to look into another ocean!

I was 19 when I met my future husband who was 9 years old than me. I dedicated my life and college years and twenties and part of my 30's and I deeply regret that he used up my youth so I could support his life and out of wedlock son. I know it seems that you won't find anyone else and have the same bond, but time heals and opens up new places in your heart. My biggest regret is I stayed WAY to long. He started treating me disrespectfully right after we got married and I had dated him for 4 years through my college. Then when our son came I was 28 or 29 and he was done having kids because we had gotten custody of his son due to my character and hard work. I waited to "see" if he would change or be better like he was when we dated. It never changed, he never changed and got worse and abusive and I am more sad now after finally being divorced and in my early 40's that he took my precious time thinking I would never leave because I was devoted and catholic. This 46 year old is a grown up and knows EXACTLY what he is doing. Please take all the advice and run and get out. Give yourself time and space to breath, you will be surprised at all the other people, experiences and friends that will come into your life but you are blocking it by staying with him. I know I did and as soon as I painfully got out so much time was invested that it was harder to get free legally and financially. How dare he take your precious youth for marriage and family because guess what, he is only going to get older and grumpy and really think he has you when you don't feel your young or pretty enough to get back out there. You are YOUNG and pretty and there is an ocean of good people, GO RUN don't waste anymore time.

Don't marry him and make the same mistake I did, you are going into your prime, and he's long come out of it.

Ya never know what someone else may be thinking no matter how close you are. maybe hes afraid his wants for the rest of his life may comprise your wants and he doesnt want to take that away from you. if you love him be patience. you really wouldnt want someone to marry you cuz they HAVE to or because they were given an ultimatium. AND dont sell yourself short either. you shouldnt have to compromise your beliefs. hope courage is with you. dont let fear be the motivation for a dicusion you need to make