My relationship

What do you mean, what should you do? depends on what you want out of the relationship. is what you are getting enough to keep you happy with the relationship? do you want more? have you talked to him about how you never talk?

If I assume by your username that your birth year is 1978, you are either 29 or 30 at this point. Which means the guy you are with is 20 or 21. There can be a huge maturity factor difference between where you are in life and where he is in life.

it just sounds like you want someone is a bit more mature, that can talk to you and hold conversations with you, which is one of the things you are lacking with this younger guy.

just my 2 cents

Perhaps I can help you out. My fiance is 4 and a half years younger than me. It's very interesting because it's not always the norm to have an older woman with a younger man. When he talks about his childhood it reminds me of my little brothers lol. okay enough about me let me give you some advice.

I think we tend to over think and analyze a bit. I'm also basing your age according to your user name. At his age the most influential woman in his life has been his mother. Sure he's had other relationships but men aren't really taught to show their emotions as much as women are. Men show love differently as well. For a guy who is his age buying you a bracelette and telling you he really likes you is a lot. Maybe he isn't quite emotionally mature to express his feelings openly. Maybe he thinks its more important to remain cool and calm.

I think you are going to have to be the one to start the open communication process. I'm pretty sure you have an idea of what you want and where you are going, at his age he may not. So just start bringing up topics of things to talk about. Ask him about his passions in life, and what he enjoys doing. Ask him personal questions that you can really get in deep and get to know him. This will create a closer bond. Laugh about the age difference. I tease mine all the time about the land before time movie. Since he was so into it when he was a kid. I liked the movie too but I didn't sleep with a stuffed dinosaur at the time. So it's good to laugh and discuss the differences in how you grew up.

He also maybe looking to you to lead the way since you are 9 years older. So if you really like him you're going to have to be the one to bring him out of his shell. You could try taking him out to dinner, a situation that lends well to conversation. Remember that he may like you but feel as though he can't give you what other guys your age can, stability, maturity, a good paying salary. You need to tell him what you really want in your relationship. So dinner is an opportune time to talk.

Now for the downside. I'd love to bring you all good news only but given your description there may be a chance that he is just looking for a girl that comes over to his place, chills for a bit, and then has sex with him and leaves. So you are going to have to do some investigating to find out. pick the brain.

and by chance if he isn't 21 yet he may be feeling inept at the fact that he can't hang out with you at bars, or drink out on a date. It may be farthest from your mine, but it isn't from his.

Hopefully this is a little more done than said. You need to sit down with him and find out exactly what he wants out of this relationship. If he is mature about it he will tell you and you can work out whatever it is you need to work out or if he in inmature you will know by him just shrugging it off and saying that he likes you. you have to trust your gut on this one. All relationships should be based on trust in my opinion. You have to ask yourself do you trust him in what he does or do you have reservations? If your reservations outweigh your trust then you might want to find someone else. Not to be the bearer of bad news but i dated a girl that was 5 years older than me and it did not work out too well. I was 25 and she was 30, and she had a child. She was into me as much as i was into her and we spoke a lot, the child was a little too much for me though. If you are in a better situation than that, and it is just a speaking issue you might just want to talk to him and find out what his intentions are and how you 2 can work to be trusting of each other. Hope this helps.