Lesbian seeking visitation with children i helped raise

They are her kids and she is in control ==i don't think you have any rights in the matter and taking legal action would only make the gap between the two of you greater ---frankly try to mend any bad feelings and request to see them because you do love them and would like to be there for them regardless of past problems if she still refuses a clean break may be best for all

What clean break when the kids love me and she is just doing this out of spite

I realize it is out of spite and i know you care for them and she is using them as a weapon against you --if you cant make amends with her then it will be very hard on you and the kids but she still gets to exercise her power over you where they are concerned

This answer was edited by jim5456 311 days ago.

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This is sad and you are deeply hurt,and hopefully there will come a time that the both of you can make peace so that you will be able to see the children. You do not have any legal rights to see them, even though you have helped raise the children. Anytime you get in a relationship with someone that has children you face this. I really wish I coud tell you what you want to hear. All I can sujest is just to give each other some time to get over any hard feelings that you both may feel and then try to get in touch with her and see if you can stop by and see the children,kind of just take it slow.

Thank you so much i will give it time its been 9 days that i have not heard fron the kids.she keeps saying it should be about the kids but if it were just about the kids she should have put them to speak to me already.she sends me mixed signals and she acts very jealous

Now its been 13 days and she says that she chooses not to let them speak or see me at this time.that i have to control what i say to her

Thank you for your support the kids just called me today after 18 days. all they wanted to know was when am i going to pick them up.

Great i'm happy for you