My daughter has not heard from her father in 9 months. Now he wants a weekend visitation. What do I do?

I think you should do exactly what you feel is the right choice. Maybe he's realized what he's done is wrong and he wants another chance to make things right. Every one deserves their second chance.

Thank you for your reply. I would like to add to the fact that my daughter is nine years old and never met her father until she was 5. I did give him the visit one week before Easter and now she has again, not heard from him since. This has been an on going pattern.

I feel, if you keep your daughter from her natural father she will hold it against you unless she knows for her self she don't like him. I woulden't turn her against her father if it were me,

I feel, if you keep your daughter from her natural father she will hold it against you unless she knows for her self she don't like him. I woulden't turn her against her father if it were me,

I really appreciate your feed back. Thank You! However, I did take your answer into consideration and I sent my daughter for a visit the weekend before Easter. I guess it went o.k. But she has not heard from him since. I feel that every time I let her call her father and he refuses to answer her calls or messages that I'm the one setting her up for the big disappointment. I have never spoke a negative word about her father and I really encourage her to have that relationship. I just don't know how I can get it across to him that it is important for him to be consistant.

Little kids are highley perseptive keep encourageing her . soon she will enter those teen years so dont give her ammunition give her all the help and understanding you can and most of all make sure she knows it is not her fault and that will be the hardest

Does he have joint custody or visitations ordered though the courts. He does have the right to see his daughter however since it has been nine months I would talk to him and sujest maybe he come over for a visit and see how they relate. It also depends on the age of the child if she is a teen and gets along with her father then there is know reason why she shouldn't be able to go. How does she feel that is also imporant. If you do not feel that you want him to than just tell him and be open as to why you don't. If he is caring than he will understand. Theres not alot he can do about it if you don't. you are intitled to use your judgement as a monther after 9 months of his being absent.