Pregnant and don't not sure what to do?

Oh - you really are going through a lot right now! Have you considered talking to someone at a woman's shelter? I would look up any information for you to help you out - just let me know what city you are in and I'll find someone you can call right now.

No one EVER deserved to be hit for any reason immy, but now that you have a child you have an extra responsibility to protect them from him and you need to find a way to get out. Do you have family that you can live with for a while? Are you living with him? If you aren't, you should get a restraining order so he can't bother you. This can be such an exciting time for you, even though you may not have planned for this baby and he has no right to take that away from you.

So what if he wants a paternity test, he is saying that to hurt you and it will just make him look like a fool. Please start writing things down so that when you go to court to get custody, you will have evidence that he is not safe for your child to see without supervision. Let me know if you need anything else. Hang in there - you can do it for you and your baby!

You are going through alot.

listen to jodi, she has some very great advice

Oh boy what a sad situation. Yes no one deserves to be hit, verbally abused, etc. You are going to have to suck it up and move on. Surround yourself with your family that can help you through this. There are places you can go for help for battered women, and getting an restraining order maybe a good thing for you right now.

I know you love him but you don't want this violence to play out on your unborn child and getting protection from him and getting others involved will help you and your child stay safe from him. Later he may try to get custody rights of the child so you need to think a few steps ahead of him.

I'm sorry to hear this because you certainly don't deserve this. Get with the people in your family you are the closest and good friends.

You do not want this cycle to repeat because the next person he's going to bully and hit is your child. So you might as well start now dettaching from him and getting the law involved for your safety.

best wishes for you and your child,

Dear Immy,
You need to think of your baby. Any form of abuse whether it be physical or mental in a relationship is harmful to you and your unborn baby. I dont know if you have other children or if this is your first baby, but you definetly need to think of your child. There are many churches that will help you as far as emotional help and needing assistance in a place to stay. If talking things out is not working then being apart from each other for a while will do you good. Anger is a form of fear, so maybe the anger that you are recieving from the baby's father is simply him fearing being a dad or the responsibilities of being a father. Who ever told him this lie about you has caused you alot of problems, stay far away from people like this. Surround yourself with people that love you no matter what. Look to God for help, he has blessed you with a baby and all babies are blessings from above. I will keep you in my prayers and pray that God protect you and your little one and bless you both.

I have learned, that when a man accuses his wife/girlfriend of cheating, he is usually the one doing the cheating. If he says his ex was abusive, he was the abusive one, if he says ex followed him, he was the one doing the following.
If he doesn't trust you now, & doesn't respect you now, he never will.
Good luck in your decision.
It, unforantely, is a decision only you can make, but I'm sure everyone will have some good advice for you, & hopefully you will find the right answer!

YOU AND YOUR BABY DESERVE BETTER THAN THIS LOSER.

Me and my girls always say, "If you get hurt once, its his fault. If you get hurt twice, its your fault."

This time its his fault. He's treating you horribly, and this isnt a good environment for a preganant women or to bring a baby into. There are plenty of guys in this world who would treat you wonderfully. This guy isnt your prince charming, and the only guy who deserves you is the man who is. This guy has clearly not grown up...he's still imature...and a boy cant be a father. You need a man for your child. Even if it takes awhile to find him. Just pray that God will help you find him...and i promise you that you will. Dont let him hurt you again...leave him now.

If you can, go stay with your family. Leave A.S.A.P. If you dont have anywhere to go, please give us your city & state. Jodi said she'd help. And i will too. This isnt safe for you and your baby...

Ill pray for you. Dont worry.

Trust me on this one Immy...He will do it again and again and ohh yes he will say he's sorry and that he will never do it again but he will...and as for all the accusations he throws at you,there will be plenty.I went through the very same thing you described and it took me 13 years of telling myself "it will get better" to figure out it wasn't getting better ...just a whole lot worse.Please do this for you and your baby....Leave...Ask yourself this....Is this the man you want showing your son how to treat a woman?..or if you have a daughter.....Do you want her to grow up thinking its ok for a man to hit a woman?...Please think about it

Get rid of him and just think of you and your baby. I went through the same thing many years ago. I was stupid enough to marry this abusive jerk cause I "loved" him. Well he treated me like garbage throughout our marriage. Never stay with someone that is physically or mentally abusive cause you will just regret it. You cant change him.

I think you should lisen to jodi-mesa

In time the pain will go away. Walk away now, please for your sake & for your baby. He doesn`t deserve you & he doesn`t need to screw up your babys life. The hitting will NOT stop no matter how many times he tells you it will. God bless you, you are in my prayers, as well as the baby.