Can a step dad fall in love with his step daughter. Father and mom are getting a divorce and daughter wants to be with dad. Daughter is a beautiful

17 year old Daughter does not want me to go over to the house unless I call. She does not want us to get back together

I would suggest that you try to re-establish a relationship with your daughter. She is on that fine line between being a minor and of legal age. You will need to check the laws in your state about making her move out of your ex-husbands house.

I don't know what happened to turn her away from you but you know how irrational teens can be. As my husband says-they live on their own street of reality until the real world hits them between the eyes.

I know how painful this must be for you. I can't even imagine how I would be able to get through it. But I do know that time is on your side.

If you have reason to believe that your ex-husband is falling in love with her, then there may be an issue of sexual abuse that began years ago. If that is the case then you need to get the law involved and get your daughter the help she is going to need to overcome the emotions that she is feeling.

Could it be they are in love with each other. Just seems weird for the step dad to be with his step daughter. Maybe have a good relationship. But I would think that step dad would like real mom to have good relationship too. but they keep things hidden from her

Maybe they are just really close to each other, let's not put malice in it.. unless there are some abnormal actions that you can see from both of them.

She is too young to make the decision of how you are to interact with another adult. The step father should know better than to take full advantage of the situation with your daughter. Her mind is not fully developed yet and the step father is taking full advantage of that. I would first go to the step father and have a one on one with him and tell him that if he wants a younger woman that you will pay for his membership to an online dating website but it is disrespectful to you and unfair to your daughter for him to not step up and be the adult in this situation. I would make your plea with him and not your daughter. I would let your daughter know that this is not the loyalty that a daughter should show her mother. I would do it in love and let her know that you do care about her but do let her think that you will accept this behavior. Tell her you will forgive her if she moved forward and things don't work out but that she will have taken a step back in the relationship and she will need to re-earn that trust. Bottom line, she is not an adult, I would treat her with A LOT of respect and appeal to her with a soft voice (soft words turn away wrath) but you can still stand firm in your position in a loving way. If you feel that you cannot deliver this message without blowing up with your ex or your daughter it is better to type of a well written letter, and then proof read it many times before sending it. You can deliver it in person and tell them that you felt like you could better express yourself in a letter. The key here is to not loose your cool and to stay rational but strong. (mixed with love - for both of them) good luck

Correction: do let her think that you will NOT accept this behavior.