My 15 year old son was in bed with another boy!

I am sorry. I know how hard this can be for you. This not your fault. This is a choice that your son is making. He needs your support. He may just be trying things out. You need to talk to him and see where he is coming from. The law applies for same sex people but you would need to check with you state. Stay calm and try to keep your emotions at bay so you can both talk about the situation. Good luck with everything.

I am sure he is just "testing the water" so to speak.

15 is to young to know what his sexually is

talk to him gently

ask him how long he has been what seams to be a gay sexual act.

ask him if he feels more comfortable with the same sex or his preference is male.

be his friend, and talk streight to the point.

i do not know if it is legal or not in your state.

it is NOT at all your fault

this may or may not be his personal choice

i know it is very hard on you but if you want to keep a good relationship with your son....

even though you object support him.

let him know he can come to you for ANY reasons this included.

if you punish yell or what evers you may very well drive him away

in another 2 years he will be an adult and by then he should know his preferences

He might be into boys and you need to talk to him.Ask him about the feelings he has,if he is attracted to boys and so,that way he will open some doors for you.You can lead him away from trouble,because not every friend will accept him that way.You need to prepare him for further possibilities in life,what to expect from kids and how to handle it.Finding him in bed with another boy is not your fault,some kids are sexual at earlier age.From now on though ,you can prevent such a thing by talking to him.Telling him how it would be healthy to wait before he is sexually active, a few years at least.Do not panic he will be o.k.,just make sure he will always tell you if something is troubleing him.

Don't assume things right them just ask questions about it and if it is a gay situation then no it ain't your fault, it is what he find interesting and no it ain't nothing wrong with that, it is life and people choose for what they want so it is whatever makes him happy:)

OF COURSE NOT ! You have to let him explore things in his own way. Never blame yourself.

I recently had a discussion with my 16 year old. I guess I didn't notice that he had an awful lot of "gay" friends. I mean I just thought that he wasn't a "hater".... then he got into a huge fight with some of his best friends - I found out that it was because he was "thinking" that he was "bi" - they are straight and didn't like it.

I think it was the "influence" from the children he was hanging around. So I sent him to live with his father, hoping that a stronger male influence would help.

I'm not afraid to admit that I personally don't approve of the homosexual lifestyle, that's my choice, my opinion - I have the right to it, and I don't "gay" bash. So, to say the least I was UPSET!

I say talk to him about it. If you are against it, let him know that you may not be able to control who he dates, but you will demand that he respects your wishes while he is in your home.

My opinion is that it was extremely disrespectful of BOTH BOYS - you should inform the other boys parents, it is no different then if they had been the opposite sex and you caught them.

As far as it being illegal - there are some states where homosexuality is still "on the books" as illegal, but I don't think anyone would follow through with any actual charges because you would have to prove criminal actions.

Please do not listen to the previous poster who is biased against what she describes as the homosexual lfestyle.

Your son may just be experimenting. It is normal at his age, But you need to have a frank discussion with him about his sexuality. Most gay men tell me they know from a very early age that they are gay. It is not a choice... who would choose such a difficult lifestyle? He will need your support and understanding... and most importantly, love and acceptance.

If he tells you he is gay, you cannot wish it away or stop it to suit yourself. Instead, find out all you can about supporting a gay child from local gay organizations and make sure he feels included in your family. I have seen too many men whose parents have cruelly put their religious biases ahead of their unconditional love for their children. Your future relationship depends on how you handle this situation.

Under no circumstances should you tell the other youth's parents. Fifteen is the normal age for sexual experimentation. You could be condemnng him to a painful future within his own family.

I would say its time for you to have a talk with him and let him know how much you love him and that you support him wether he is gay or straight. He is experiementing and trying to figure out what he feels is best for him.

He is still only 15 and maybe applying some ground rules for both females and males who visit your house would be good, such as no closed bed room doors while friends are visiting and a curfew if he doesn't have one.

Please don't judge your son, or think that this is your fault, this is just a natural curiousity that he needs to figure out what his sexually is.

Please encourage open communication between the two of you, it will make things more easy and he will feel a little more comfortable talking to you.