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sunnyrains

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Should I date a porn star?

I'm not sure what to do, but I have been talking to this guy and he recently told me that he is an adult film star. I really do like him, but I'm just not sure what to do about it. He tells me that we would be very happy together and that it is just his job. He is a great guy and I just don't know what to do. Porn stars need love to...i guess.

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Submitted 267 days ago...

andrew

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If the person is a perfect fit - then great. However, how would you feel if you got serious and saw him in films? Or, how would you feel if you dated him and knew he was shooting films on the side. I don’t think this would lead to a good relationship. Jealously and tough times will likely be ahead.

 

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Submitted 267 days ago...

jess

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Yes, I agree with andrew 100%..... Date at your own risk......

P.S. there are lots of fish in the sea...

 

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Submitted 267 days ago...

Ruchele

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Wow girl, you have to go with your gut. I strongly believe that our gut is much smarter than our heart, and often more reasonable than our brains. Your gut is telling you what to do, I haven't met someone yet that hasn't ever said "I shouldn't/should have done such and such, I knew it, I just had a gut feeling"

Good luck, and much love for you!!

 

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Submitted 267 days ago...

staciodaviso

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If you think that getting with an Adult Porn Star is the thing to do then do it. Only you can make this decisions but lets think about this:

1. His job is to have sex with other women. If you have any jealousy issues what-so-ever, you might want to reconsider this.

2. Is he careful on the job? Who knows what kind of STD's he could end up with that could ultimately change your life forever. Herpes DOESN'T go away (duh) and AIDS will KILL you eventually. Just think of how this could effect you.

3. And do you think that this could possibly effect the passion of your love-making with him? If his job is to have sex do you think he is going to be geared up and ready to go when he is with you?

All im saying is consider all the possible pros and cons before getting intimate and/or into a relationship. If it makes you uncomfortable now when you have only known him a little while, when you really start to fall for him how much more uncomfortable do you think it is going to make you? If you are sure you can deal with all of this then go for it but don't expect him to change for you, you can't ever go into a relationship expecting a man to change. GOODLUCK!

 

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Submitted 267 days ago...

primetime001

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Staciodaviso's got some excellent points. You really need to think it through. You have to pay attention to what people do, not as much to what they say.

I knew a co-worker who dated a stripper. At first, he couldn't believe it - she was extremely beautiful & sexy. They dated for a few months, then he introduced her to his parents. He expected high-fives from his dad, thought his mom would be proud. Instead his parents were devastated. His mom sobbed, his dad expressed nothing but disappointment. This created a lot of conflict for him.

He decided to move in with the stripper. She got a job offer to strip for $500 / night in New York, so they moved to NYC from California. Soon after they were married. Then, about 3 months later, he came home early to find her in bed with somebody else. He had too much pride to forgive her, and divorced her. He was crushed and humiliated by the whole experience. Their relationship, from dating to divorce, lasted less than 2 years.

Your porn star boyfriend is probably a good guy, but I predict you'll have a lot of unforeseen issues if you pursue the relationship, as the person I once knew did.

 

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Submitted 30 days ago...

ldsch

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I'm not believing what this alleged "porn-star" is running on you. The first thing you should do is demand to see three of his best films. That way you'll know if he's even worth a physical relationship. You'll also discover pretty fast whether or not it makes you jealous to see him having relations with another woman because if he really is what he claims, he'll keep doing what he does. On that point, it's also only a matter of time before he finds another woman he likes better than he likes you, so at best if you get with him it would probably be a very temporary relationship. Don't you want something better than this for yourself?

 

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Submitted 25 days ago...

Jchand

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Let me just say that that there are plenty of great guys out there who are not Porn Starts for a living and if you are as great as I think you might be, you could probably do a lot better. Any guy who can find nothing better to do with his life than adult film really does not eserve a wonderful person like I think you may be. Just ask yourself if you can be okay with him coming home evryday and you know he has just cheated on you several times and you are going to be okay with that. If you can honostly say that doesn't bother you then maybe you were made for each other.

 

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Submitted 16 days ago...

sylk

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He is right, it is a job. The question you really need to ask yourself is if you can live with knowing he is having sex for money with other partners. People do not generally know that people who do these types of jobs seperate themselves both physicaly and more importantly emotionaly from there work. For them its just like a factory job. When they are done for the day they want the love, support, friendship and trust of a regular relationship. If you can't live with this, then please be honest with him as to why and maybe you will have found a great frind in the process.

 
 

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