Slow your roll girlfriend before you crash and burn.
Sadly, it is common for young women to become infatuated with the man who is out of reach, who creates a longing and desire for more. Women get caught up and chase men that have no real interest in them. This is exactly the mentality that the Pick Up Artist industry teaches men to use against women to have sex with then abandon them. So I caution you to stay grounded and not let your sexual attraction for this guy make you think you are in love. You are attracted to him certainly, and he is surely flirting with you.
But you are not a couple, you are not committed, and he is not your man.
Slow down and date other guys. Have fun and enjoy your life. If you see this guy, you see him. If not, that should be fine too. You have to maintain control, which is actually much more attractive to men than a woman that falls in love at the drop of a hat. Guys need to exert some sort of energy to see you, spend time with you, and get you. If you roll over too easily you present no challenge for men, and they LOVE a woman that challenges them. They need to feel that you are confident, secure, and know you have something of value to offer. He has to feel that you are picky about who you date and if he is chosen to be the lucky guy, he should feel blessed.
It's about a change in attitude for you. So sit back, calm down and put your game face on. You need to spend a lot more time with this guy and get to know him as a person, what his story is, who else he is seeing at home where he lives, and what his true interest in you might be. Right now you don't have the answers to any of those questions.
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I just met this guy and Im getting mixed signals..help?
So I just met a guy pretty recently, and I've only seen him twice in person. He's in a band [not a typical one mind you, no groupies or anything] & he tours. He also lives in a different state. We just had our second encounter with eachother recently, and it went really good. We talked about all kinds of things & while we were walking he kept brushing agianst me & grabbed my hand & he also kissed me. Not once, but three times.
I felt something, like butterflies & I was so happy. It sounds cliche I know, but I cant get him off my mind! Its been 2 days now, and I havent heard from him. I know he's probably busy. I tried calling him but his phone was turned off so I left a voicemail. Im just not sure what I should do? Should I lay low & stop trying to get ahold of him since I already called him or should I try & call him in a couple days?
Theres something about this guy...I dont know what but I feel all giddy over him! We have stuff in common & I was just so happy the time we spent together, wasnt much time at all but it was enough for me to feel something. Help...Im so confused & sad over it all.
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Thank you! Things have been going slow...but they're still going lol. I rarely ever txt/call him, its always him who txts first. Sometimes I might txt first, but Im doing just what you said. Taking things slow & not really being too concerned over him. I'm not really sure where things are going but Im not letting it bother me now!
Thanks again:)
I would deffinetly slow down, it happpens that the guy kinda may not want a more than friends relationship with you or at this time because he's not in the riht mind for one seeing that he is in a band and tourin. I would lay low so you dont get hurt and wait and see what he does before you go a step further
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